How to Text Women So They Reply (Guide)

She never replied…now you’re wondering how to text women

It seemed like you really hit it off when you met. She was smiling, flirting, and was super enthusiastic.  “Yeah, let’s have coffee!” she said before leaving. You messaged her expecting she’d get right back to you, but hours passed, then days, and she didn’t even bother to say “Hi” back.

“I’ve messaged countless women with very little luck. The ones that do reply back end up messaging 3-5 times, but when I try to set up a date the text msg gets cold.”

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Or maybe she did respond, and you had a great text conversation.

You bantered back and forth, told a few jokes, and you knew she was into you. It seemed like everything was good but when you asked her to meet she stopped messaging, or would take hours to get back to you.

In the end it was just “I’m busy” or no reply at all, and frustration. It may seem like a mystery but there’s a way to get more girls to reply.

Keep reading till the end, you wont want to miss all the details.

Why do women go cold on text and what can you do about it?

That feeling of excitement from meeting someone new quickly turns into disappointment when your text chat goes cold. Even worse, when she doesn’t even bother to reply.

You feel like you did everything right but it’s a complete mystery why she won’t respond to you.

You may have even tried to look up “text game” but you’re still not getting any responses.

Also see: How to Approach Women in Public (Ultimate Guide)

This is a common issue that men face after getting numbers from a attractive women.

It seems strange because when you met her it was all smiles and flirts. However, you think about it everything becomes clear. Hot girls get asked out by guys all of the time, and if you don’t stand out there’s another guy who’s going to get her attention.

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How can I get girls to reply to my messages?

Getting her to reply and come out on a date often boils down to getting out of your own way. The common text mistakes guys make can change a girl from interested to “busy”. If you’re doing any of the following, it could be killing your chances to get a date:

  • Sending long messages
  • Telling her your life story
  • Using the “3 day rule”
  • Trying to make her like you by text
  • Trying to be cool, witty or funny
  • Not getting to the point of why you got her number in the first place
  • Texting frequently 

You don’t need to be funny, tell her your life story, have a text conversation or try to make her like you.

Women fall for guys who make them feel somethinghow to text womenWhen you introduced yourself she may have felt butterflies, curiosity, been turned on, or she may have had no interest at all. Whatever it was, that’s going to be the one thing that compels her to reply or not.

If you take too long to msg (3 day rule) or set up a date (get to the point) you’ll let her cool off and “life will get in the way”. 

Guys who are feeling insecure will often send long text or message frequently. It’s needy, and turns women off because it looks like you have nothing better to do.

*Note: There’s nothing wrong with being funny or witty, it’s just not necessary and can even work against you. It’ll often look like a guy is trying too hard, so just stick to the basics.

Why You Can’t Win A Woman Over By Text

Guys sometimes tell me “I don’t agree with you on this one, I know I’ve changed girls minds by texting them X and X…”

The problem is, 90% of communication which creates attraction is missing when you text. Body language, voice tonality, eye contact, and touch.

Attraction isn’t created with pixels on her phone. If she didn’t like you when you met, nothing you text will change her mind. Sometimes it’s just a matter of persistence and timing, and that’s where following up comes into play. More on how to follow up near the end.  

The Purpose Of Texting

There’s only one reason to text a girl you’ve just met – To set up the first date. 

Don’t get confused by so called pick up artist trying to sell you “The Ultimate Guide To Texting” or any other complicated junk. You have her number so now it’s time to make the magic happen; go see her in person.

3 Simplified Rules To Get Dates By Text

This is the only set of rules you’ll ever need on how to text girls. I’ve done this for years and know how effective it is. Best of all, it’s simple and easy.

  1. MSG her the same day you met her – Attractive women get invited on dates almost daily. If you don’t message her the same day she’ll lose interest in a flash. Life’s busy, don’t become background noise.
  2. Set up a date on your first message – There’s no reason to  go through a series of messages trying to win a woman over. She either likes you or she doesn’t, so strike the iron while it’s hot. Avoid over thinking and ask her to meet.
  3. Keep it simple – Don’t send a long complicated message. Keep you first message short and sweet by getting to the point.

Isn’t Messaging Her Too Soon Needy?

A lot of guys use the three day rule because they’re worried about looking needy. In reality, a guy who sets things up right away looks bold and assertive. He’ll also stand out from all of the other guys who are waiting, trying to look cool even though they’re thinking about her all day. 

Guys who wait master… I wont say it, but you get the point. There isn’t a perfect time to message after meeting a woman, but if you wait your odds will decrease. 

The window of opportunity after meeting a girl is short.

Take advantage of that short time while you’re fresh in her memory. You’ll only come off as needy if you send her a novel sized text or too many messages, as was mentioned earlier. 

“As a general rule, whoever is putting the most effort into the communication is the one doing the chasing. So if you want to have any shot of getting a girl to chase you, then you must not over-text. Instead, look to keep the text ratio close to 1:1 and text the girl about as frequently as she texts you.”   – The Art of Charm

What Should I Say In My Message?

As long as you keep it simple and to the point, the exact wording isn’t too important. Tell her it was good to meet her, and ask which day works to meet up for coffee. It’s really that simple.

One thing to avoid is weak language like “Do you want to”, “Can we” “Could we”, “Would you like to” Those all come off as ‘beta’ or insecure.

In my case, I actually set up first dates at home which is a bit more complicated. I won’t go into that on this post though as it’s much more advanced than setting up a coffee. Keep it simple for better results.

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How Do I Follow Up if She Doesn’t Reply?

how to text girlsI always send a follow-up text a couple of days later if I don’t get a reply.

Typically, I will make a bit of a joke in my message or call her out (lightheartedly) as someone who doesn’t reply. There’s no reason why you can’t be direct about it, just keep it fun.

A lot of women who don’t reply to the first message will reply to the second one. It knocks the fence sitters off the fence. The women who are not interested will continue to be silent.

I’ll often just send a “?” and be done with it. Again, it’s just a poke or friendly reminder for fence sitters. 

Part of dating is a numbers game, so don’t get too torn up about someone not replying. After all, who’s she anyways? A stranger. Don’t take it too seriously, another date is always just around the corner.

Internet Dating And Text

Online dating is a different animal altogether. I’ll be putting some detailed articles together to talk about that in future post.

Questions?

If you have any questions just leave a comment below. 

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  1. I’ve definitely played with texting for the past few months, and I’m finally getting results from online and getting numbers. I’ve found that when I stop worrying about looking too needy, like you mention in the article, and text more often, I get more responses. Seems like common sense, but finally makes sense to me.

    • Yeah, worrying too much about looking needy will create some weird behavior. Taking a chill approach to the whole thing works better.

  2. The online question is too complicated to answer effectively here. Your photos may not be good, your profile may not catch attention, or your messages may not be good. If anything is off it could wreck your chances of getting dates. Another factor is proper spelling and grammar.

    If your fear is running out of things to say it’s the same thing as fearing rejection. You can’t run out of things to say if you don’t care what she thinks about what you’re saying.

    Good on you for making the effort and chatting those girls up. I can’t really say what went wrong without having been there. Most likely you guys kept the whole conversation very platonic, physically and verbally.

  3. Hi, I am Ron I met you at you last meet up event. I have tried the internet dating site plenty of fish with very little luck. I have msged countless women with very little luck. However the once that do reply back end up giving me there number within 3 to 5 msg. But when I try to set up a date the text msg gets cold. I also ended up getting a date from the site and in my head it went pretty well with some set backs and my date also assured me that she had a great time and that she would really wanna go out with me again. So I msged her the same night thank her for the date. To that her response was I had a great time see u soon. But the next time wen I tried to set something up she went cold and the she responded sorry I was sick didn’t see ur text. I asked if she okay and she said I am good now. After that she went cold. So I took it as a sgin that she is not interested and deleted her number. Reading ur article did help answer some of my question and I do tend to beta around wen text which stop now.

    Also do you have any tips for a first timer cold approach guy. My fear is not rejection but running out of things to talk about. I took ur advice on voicing out things when in a line up and it worked like a charm. Me and my friend where getting pizza after clubbing so we started talking what we want to get and this two girls that where in front of us joined our conversation and asked us they could sit with us when there was 3 table empty. But the conversation when all over the place and next thing know I got a nice to meet u both.

    Thank You.

  4. Hi , I’am caden
    I know this girl like 2year plus , But I dun know her well enough ! Tht suck .
    I’am poor in texting and my text are bored to her . So how can I improve it . i dun have much topic to talk with her . Can have your help ?

    • Hi Caden, texting her is not going to make her like you. There are some ways to spike interest if things have cooled down, and if you’ve known her over two years and nothing has happened….

      You need her to meet you in person otherwise you won’t have a chance to create attraction.

      A much better solution would be to get good with women in general and forget about this girl. Learn how to meet women and date multiple women to create options for your self. If you have options you won’t be obsessing over a single girl anymore.

  5. Good stuff , Eddy , you certainly straightened out my text ( lack of ) game. I certainly used to send long messages , tell her about my dream last night ( with her in it ). “Don’t call me any more , you’re weirding me out” , was her call back. Little romance via text , would be the call to order , as you teach. As examplified in previous example.
    Thank you , Eddy , I’m not weird any more.

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