Where Should You Go On A First Date?

Where should you go on a first date?

Well, if your primary mission is to get to know the girl you're on a date with and make a connection so there could be a second date or even going home with her, then you're going to want to keep this as simple as possible.

There are multiple reasons as to why you want to keep this simple, including respecting your own time, as well as thinking about the effectiveness of the date.

Basically, what that means is: don't take your date somewhere it's going to take a long time, including commuting.

Normally, that would mean no hiking or anything else like that that's going to make the date extremely long.

Another thing you want to avoid is anything that's going to cost you a lot of money.

If you spend money on your date, it's not going to impress her and it's not going to make it more likely that she's actually going to go out with you on another date.

So, avoid anything that's going to cost money. That limits us to a few simple dates that are really easy, low cost or no cost.

Plus, it gives you the opportunity to make a connection with her by actually having a conversation, making eye contact and doing the other things that are important for creating attraction.

For me, I limit first dates to either coffee shops, bars or even going for a walk at a place like the beach or a park (as long as it's nearby).

Yes, I just said you shouldn't do anything expensive and bars can be very expensive, but not if you actually have self control and you limit it to one drink. Literally one drink.

However, if you have the opinion of or you don't have the talent for getting a girl interested in you without alcohol, then obviously that's not going to be a tip you're going to enjoy.

For those of us who don't need to cover up their insecurities and grow their balls using alcohol, then one drink is more than enough.

And hell, you can even invite your date to your home and make dinner for her or have a drink there.

To do that, you need the balls to actually ask her. Too many guys think they have to walk in egg shells and be super careful, or they're going to scare their date away. That's just not true.

You'll be surprised how many girls will say yes to an invite to go back to your place, including starting at your place at the very beginning of the date. This is only for guys who have a lot more confidence though.

If that's not you, don't worry about that. Go grab a coffee and you're good. Focus on getting to know her.

The point here is you don't need to wreck your brain about where to go on a first date.

You don't need anything creative or super exciting. Your personality should be exciting enough.

After all, if she doesn't like your personality, what else is there?

You don't need an exciting event to take your date to in order to cover up your lack of personality, if that's the problem. Eventually she's going to find out.

But you tell me, where have you gone for a first date that turned out really well, or where have you gone that turned out really badly? Leave a comment below.


To decide where to go for your first date with the woman you’re interested in, take these points into consideration:

  1. Avoid planning your first date somewhere that’s going to take a long time or that’s going to cost too much money
  2. Focus on getting to know her, making conversation, holding eye contact and other things that create attraction
  3. Limit your date to nearby places such as bars, coffee shops or even parks

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