What To Expect On A First Date?

What to expect on a first date?

If you just set up your first first date or you don't have too much experience under your belt, then the question of what to expect on a first date might give you some nerves.

Don't worry though, because in this post, I'm going to explain:

  • Everything you need to know about what to expect on a first date
  • How to set an intent so you actually get more out of your first dates
  • How to stop being another leaf in the wind waiting for a random chance to work in your favor

And so much more. Let's get into it.

The Quick List: What To Expect On A First Date

Let's start with the most common things you can expect on a first date.

Then you're going to learn more about how to set an intent so you can get much more out of your first dates and have better results.

So, here's the quick list:

#1. A Smile When You Greet

She's most likely going to return the energy you give her, which needs to be a positive and approachable type of energy.

#2. Small Talk

You're basically going to be chatting about her life, what she does, why she does it, anything hobby wise that she likes, and probably all the same stuff in your direction as well.

#3. Awkward Silences

Only if you don't know how to handle silences.

They can actually be a great thing for creating sexual attention if you don't jump in to try to fill in those awkward voids. They really don't have to be awkward.

However, since you don't have very much experience, it probably will be.

#4. Somewhat Forced Conversation

This doesn't always have to happen, but if you run out of things to talk about, then you may feel obligated to keep the conversation going. Especially if you allow your date to run too long.

#5. You'll Probably Walk Her To Her Car

Basically, that's going to be your chance to end the date in the way you planned.

#6. An Awkward Hug

It usually comes after you've said your goodbyes when you walked her to her car.

That's the basic list of what to expect on your basic b**** first date.

It's also what you can expect if you just don't have very much experience with dating, or if you don't set an intent or a goal for your date.

Let's change that and make your first dates more exciting by actually making something happen on them.

How To Improve Your Dates

The first thing you're going to do to improve your dates is set an intent or a dating goal.

That's exactly as it sounds. You're going to be deciding what you want on your first date and creating sort of a loose roadmap to get there.

For example, do you want to go for a kiss? Do you want to have just a good connection that gets you a second date, or do you want to actually take her home?

Well, you can actually accomplish all of these goals on the first date if you want. But you decide for yourself.

If you do want to take it all the way, it'll change the chemistry of the date.

That's actually a good thing, because you're going to have a chance to try before you buy and see how you guys feel afterwards and at the very least, you can have some fun.

So, if the only thing that's holding you back from trying to go and take a woman home is the inexperience and some nerves, then it's time to change that.

Of course, if it's a moral or religious thing, then you just stick to your morals or religious ideas.

Otherwise, there's no reason to "save anything" for another date, you really don't have to. Women aren't angels like you might tend to think.

But no matter what it is you want, set an intent, decide how you're going to get there and then execute.

Don't be so nervous that you can't even try anything. Don't walk on eggshells and try to have a perfect date while trying not to offend her the whole time.

Obviously, don't try to offend her, but you don't have to be acting like anything you do or say is going to send her running.

For one quick example, if you decide you want to go for a kiss, then decide when you're going to go for a kiss, what kind of moment that's going to be, and how you're going to go for it.

If you're going for a kiss at the end of the date, then you're going to focus on having a really good conversation during the date.

Make a connection, make really strong eye contact, then walk her back to the car or whatever.

Then, while you're saying goodbye and there's a big smile on your face and her face, and you feel those butterflies, you can lean in and go for the kiss.

Or, you know, you make your plan. But don't go in without a goal because if you don't have a goal, you're not going to have anywhere to take it.

In other words, expect what you want and you'll be more likely to get it.

That's all for today.


Here’s everything you need to know about what to expect on a first date and how to improve your dates:

What to expect on a first date:

  • A smile when you greet her
  • Small talk
  • Awkward silences
  • Somewhat forced conversation
  • The chances of you walking her to her car are high
  • An awkward hug

How to improve your dates:

  • Set an intent or a dating goal
  • It’s time to change the reason that’s holding you back from taking a woman home, except if it is a religious or a moral thing
  • There's no reason to "save anything" for another date
  • Expect what you want and you'll be more likely to get it

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