What To Do On A First Date (GAME CHANGER)

Are you wondering what to do on a first date?

Maybe you're worried you have to spend a whole bunch of money and go for dinner and talk with your mouth full. But that's just not true.

In fact, this topic gets highly overcomplicated by guys who think they need to impress women. The harder you try to impress women, typically the drier the panties get.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • How to simplify your dating plan
  • How to get more success on your first dates (which leads to more second dates and sex)
  • How to focus on creating attraction with the girls you like so you can avoid wasting time and money

And so much more. Keep reading to find out: 

What To Do On A First Date

The question of what to do on a first date kind of depends on your goal and how much money you want to spend.

In my opinion, you should spend no money or almost no money. And why is that? Because spending money will basically just make you a meal ticket.

How many first dates have you gone on, paid for dinner and then never heard back from her again?

Spending money on women, buying them dinners, that kind of thing does not make them attracted to you.

However, if you still want to spend some money or do something creative on a first date, that's up to you. But I would suggest keeping the costs as low as possible.

Also, most importantly, what is the goal of your date?

What are you going to go meet her for? Are you meeting her to go to get to know her to talk and have a conversation? 

Or are you meeting her to stuff your face and look up and down on your meal and between her, breaking tension because you're not keeping eye contact?

If you really want to get to know her, then do something that's not going to cause distractions like that.

Something that's going to allow you to talk and it's not going to be a lot of noise necessarily.

Or if there is a lot of noise, that can sometimes be a good thing because now you're going to have to huddle together a little closer and make it more intimate in order to hear each other. And that's not bad at all.

Unless you're across a big table from her, in which case that really sucks.

So, if we keep in mind that the goal of the first date is really just to make a connection, then that makes it easier to choose what to do on your date.

Here's a simplified list of dating ideas that you can use for your first date, or even your second date.

They're all low cost or no cost, but if you still want more creative dating ideas, they will be in the expanded list here.

#1. Go For A Walk

This could be at the beach or a park, and it's also a completely free first date idea.

You can get a chance to get some air, some sun, and obviously it's not good for bad weather, but when the weather is good, take your day outside.

You can have a bit of an active date, but also you'll get a chance to sit down at the bench and gaze into each other's eyes as well.

#2. Have A Picnic In A Park

If you still insist on eating what you want to eat, then make it a picnic. Go to a park, bring your own food, cook something for her.

This is much more creative and much cheaper than going to a restaurant, and you can create a much more intimate environment with you and her on the blanket.

#3. Go To A Cozy Café

Have a cafe or tea at a cozy café.

This is a classic low cost first date idea. You don't have to invest a lot of time or money, and you can still go and have a beverage while having a conversation and getting to know her.

The environment is probably not that loud, although some cafes can get up there in volume, depending on how popular they are.

But hey, I took my wife to a nice cozy French café on our first date and that seemed to work out pretty well.

#4. Have A Home Cooked Meal

This is my personal favorite. I've taken many dates home and cooked dinner for them.

That includes first dates that are online and with women that I approach on the street and other locations, it doesn't matter.

If you like cooking, this is a great way to show off your skills.

If you don't like cooking, then this is a great way to learn how to cook and start learning some skills which you can use for the rest of your life.

Not only that, but if you have your first date at your home and you're cooking for her, you're already in an intimate environment which allows for a lot more to happen after the dinner or even before the dinner.


What are red flags on a first date?

Some red flags on a first date include showing up late, ordering expensive items on a menu, drinking too much, or when a girl is looking at her phone, among many others.

What do girls look for on a first date?

Most girls are looking for a connection on a first date.

It's about getting to know the guy and figuring out whether it's attraction or not, or whether there's any red flags that might show up.

Do you want more first date info? Check out this post.


The answer to the question of what to do on a first date will depend on why you’re going on the date and how much money you want to spend. Here are some low cost first date ideas:  

  1. Go for a walk: this could be at a beach or a park and it’ll give you both the chance to get some sun
  2. Have a picnic in a park: whether you bring your own food or cook something for her, doing this will create a more intimate environment
  3. Go to a cozy café: it doesn’t require you to spend a lot of time or money, and it still allows you to have a conversation to get to know her 
  4. Have a home cooked meal: you’ll already be in an intimate environment which will increase the odds of taking the date further. Plus, it’s a chance to show off your cooking skills

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