What Should You Talk About On A First Date?

What should you talk about on a first date?

On a first date, the conversation can actually be quite simple and easy if you focus on the right thing.

The first thing you should be doing is focusing on your own curiosity, because you want to know about her and you're trying to get to know her. Let curiosity drive your questions.

Everybody loves talking about themselves, so if you make her the focal point of the conversation, you'll be good.

If you get her to open up and share about herself, talk about herself, she's actually, ironically, going to like you more because she's talking about her favorite subject, which is herself.

Of course, there's going to be back and forth. It's not going to be 100% about her.

Generally speaking, on a conversation on the first date, it'll be about 60-40, with you talking about 40% of the time and her talking about 60% of the time.

Get her to open up and share about something that's significant and important to her. You can start with the most mundane and simple topic there is, which is her work.

I know that is boring, but after she tells you what she does, if you ask the right follow up question, that's where you can actually learn about her.

Plus, you can branch off into other topics which are not work related as long as you're listening to her and not being self-conscious and thinking about yourself or thinking about what you should say next.

After you find out what she does, just find out why she does it. What got her into that field of work?

Work is something significant in all of our lives, even when we don't like our jobs.

If she really doesn't like her job and she's just doing it to pay her bills, she doesn't have a career, find out what she would do if she could do anything.

That's where you're going to learn about her desires and her motivations in life.

What do you like talking about on your first date? Leave me a comment below.


Here are some things to considering when deciding what you should talk about on a first date:

  • Let curiosity drive your questions and get to know her 
  • Generally, you should follow the 60-40 rule: 60% of the time her talking and 40% you talking 

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