Should you hold hands on a first date?
If you want to hold hands with a girl on a first date, it's really not a big deal. Obviously, she's going to need to be comfortable before she's happy to do that.
In fact, funny enough, a lot of women will sooner sleep with you than they will hold your hand.
Possibly because sex might be considered recreational for some people, and holding hands seems more like a couple kind of thing. That's just my guess.
But holding hands is something I've done successfully on first dates, typically instant ones, which would be a whole other topic.
Just to give you a quick definition: an instant date happens after you approach somebody in public and then you take them on a date right away.
I've done that before and led them away holding their hands. The point is: you could hold your date's hand on the first date. It's not a big deal.
It's actually a really good idea for you to experiment and see what works on your dates. What works for you on a date may not work for somebody else.
The bottom line is you need to get confident enough to experiment and see what works for you.
Something that may not work for you when you're not that confident and you don't have that much experience may work for somebody else when they are confident and they do have experience doing it.
If you try one time and it doesn't work and you don't have any confidence, it's not likely you're going to be highly successful the next time you try it. Unless you work on improving each time.
The next time you're on a first date and you feel some chemistry, just reach over and try holding her hand.
If she reciprocates, then you got a winner. On the other hand, if she does the quick pull back and she creates some distance, you're probably not going to get anywhere with her.
Or it might mean she's just not ready yet and you could try on another date.
In conclusion, holding hands is not a big deal. Give it a shot if you want to do it.
But if you don't hold her hand, that's also not a big deal because you can make other things happen later on that first date or on your second or third date.
How long you should date before holding hands really depends on the comfort level of both people.
It doesn't hurt to try on the first date, but you could also do it on the second or third. Or you could just wait until you're an actual couple.
There's no specific date which you have to hold hands. It depends on the two people involved and the chemistry you have.
There's no specific time to hold a girl's hand for the first time, but if you're on a date with her and you really like her, why not try on the first date?
That's it for this one. If you have any comments or questions, leave them below.
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