Is dinner and a movie a good first date?
If you're reading this post, that means you're basically s*** out of ideas and you're relying on conventional dating wisdom in order to try to get to the Holy Land, but in the worst possible way.
But... Why would dinner and a movie be such a bad idea if guys have been relying on this since they discovered fire and started making shadow puppets on their cave walls?
Well, just like most conventional dating ideas, it's very average. If you want a very average dating life, then keep doing what average guys do.
On the other hand, if you want an amazing dating life and an amazing sex life, it's important to make some adjustments so you're not just another average Joe. Let's jump into it.
The reason I don't like taking a woman to dinner and a movie on a first date is because the majority of time, you're going to end up spending money on somebody you're probably not going to see again.
Realistically, most of your first dates aren't going to go anywhere.
Not only that, but if you're watching a movie, you're not doing the things that will create attraction.
You'd both be looking at the movie instead of looking at each other, which means you wouldn't be making eye contact and therefore missing one the most important factors for creating attraction.
Plus, the dinner part isn't much better. You're not going to be having the greatest conversation with food in your mouth.
At least not when you're trying to get to know somebody new. Of course, this isn't always the case. If you're really comfortable together, then it may not be an issue.
But generally speaking, it's better to keep the food out of your mouth while you're talking to her.
The best thing to do is keep the following in mind when you're planning your first date:
#1. Do something where you can keep your eyes on her eyes
#2. Do something where your mouth isn't full of food, at least not the majority of the time
#3. Best of all, do something where you don't spend any money
You should be more focused on creating attraction and having fun with her and getting to know her, instead of having to "do something" like having dinner and a movie.
If you do this, you'll end up improving the outcome of your dates and you'll get a lot more "yes" when you ask them home, or for a second date.
A drink or a coffee is usually the best idea. Yes, that is a very basic date idea, but you'll save a ton of time and money.
Also, by doing one of these dates or something similar, you'll be able to focus on your date. As long as you don't buy more than one drink, of course.
But hey, a dinner and a movie can be a great date, but it's usually better once you've already gotten to know her a little bit.
This can also be great when you're on the second, third, fourth, or even fifth date, or maybe you're already boyfriend and girlfriend.
These are date ideas you can reserve for your fun nights out, or some later dates, but not for your first date.
FAQs
Here are some common questions about dinner and a movie on a first date:
A movie date is not really a good first date because you're focused on the movie and she's focused on the movie, instead of focusing on getting to know each other.
Plus, you're missing important elements such as eye contact, which are crucial for creating attraction.
Even if this is a typical date that most guys go for, it’s not the best idea. Instead, you should try to do this:
That's all for today. If you’ve got any questions or comments, leave them below.
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