How To Tell A Girl You Like Her Over Text (3 Tips To Get The First Date)

So you've been chatting with a girl for a while or maybe even seeing her, but nothing has really happened.

And now you're wondering, how to tell a girl you like her over text?

This is actually a huge mistake.

In this post,  I'm going to explain:

  • Why is telling a girl you like her over text a mistake
  • The alternative so you can get something going

And a lot more. Keep reading to find out:

How To Tell A Girl You Like Her Over Text

Well, the answer is don't. Actually, you shouldn't really ever tell a girl you like her.

Not a girl that you're not dating, not a girl that you're not in a serious relationship with.

This is especially bad in the early stages of dating or before you even started dating.

Let's cover why you should not tell a girl you like her over text:

Why Is It That You Shouldn't Tell A Girl You Like Her Over Text

For starters, by text, you're really limited in your form of communication.  All she can do is read the words that you're sending her.

There's no eye contact, no voice, no body language or touch.  You're taking all the emotions out of it.

Not only that, it's not manly to text a girl your feelings. 

If you really want to tell her something important (and telling a girl you like her is kind of important), be a man and do it in person. This will show more balls than half assing it and texting her.

But hey, I also said you just shouldn't tell a girl you like her, period.

At least not in the early stages of dating, or before dating especially. There are some really solid reasons for this.

A lot of the time, or I'd say probably most of the time, guys tell their feelings to a girl because they expect some kind of reciprocation.

There's nothing wrong with that, except that guys often fool themselves into thinking that if they tell a girl his feelings that that will somehow create feelings for her.

They think that she's going to like him because he likes her and it just doesn't work that way.

Or maybe you think she does like you already and you think she's going to reveal that to you now and it'll be easier moving forward.

Since you're a man, if you want to attract women, it's all about action and not words.

Women respond to a man's personality and the things he does, not to the words.

Also, telling a girl you like her is sort of awkward. It's kind of like asking for a kiss.

You shouldn't ask for a kiss, you should just do it. Take action. Verbalizing things will very often kill them in the world of dating.

I'm not saying emotions are bad, or that you should never tell a girl you like her, but if you really want to make things work, you need to attract her first with the man you are and the actions you take. Be assertive. Ask her on a date.

If you tell a girl you like her prematurely, it's not going to make her want you, but it may make her want to get away from you.

It may look needy, and it's kind of a desperate move to just put everything on the table like that instead of asking her out.

If you want to have any chance of getting her like you you need to, at the very least, get her out on a date with you.

If you're already going on dates, then continue doing that and take it to the next step, try to get physical.

Go for a kiss, hold her hand, invite her home, whatever it is, but do things instead of saying them.

Once you actually have an established relationship and you can feel there's a mutual attraction there because you both really like each other, it's okay to verbalize things sometimes.

You still don't want to be saying it every single day and overwhelming her.

But again, in the early stages of dating, or before you start dating her, it looks needy and it's kind of a desperate move that will very often push women away.

For more info on how to text girls, check out this post.

Summary

These are the reasons why you shouldn't tell a girl you like her over text:

  1.  You're limited in your form of communication.  There's no eye contact, no voice, no body language or touch involved
  2. Women respond to a man's personality and the things he does, not to the words he says
  3. In the early stages of dating, or before you start dating her, telling her you like her looks needy and it'll very often push women away

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