How To Say You Don't Want A Second Date

It doesn't always feel good to turn someone down, but knowing how to say you don't want a second date is best if you're really not into them. This means that getting to the point quickly and honestly is the best thing to do.

In this post, I'm going to explain:

  • The quickest, easiest solution to use by text to turn down a second date with somebody you're just not into
  • How to politely cancel a second date

And so much more. Keep reading to find out:

How To Say You Don't Want A Second Date

Here's how to say you don't want a second date while still maintaining some humanity. You don't have to turn down your ex date and crush them just because you don't want to see them anymore.

However, keep in mind that their feelings are their own responsibility. As long as you don't do anything malicious, they have to own that themselves.

Try this when responding to your ex date's attempt to set up a second date:

"Hey, Jenny, it was good meeting you last time, but I just am not feeling any chemistry between the two of us. I wish you the best of luck".

That message is pretty polite, it's diplomatic, and it doesn't place any blame on them.


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Of course, you can change the wording to make it more you, so it has your personality and not mine.

Make sure that when you send it you don't make it so polite that you leave some wiggle room.

It's basically the same thing for turning someone down, don't leave any wiggle room so they don't try to negotiate something or hope for another date.


Here are some common questions about how to turn down a second date:

How do you politely cancel a second date?

To politely cancel a second date, it depends on the reasons you're canceling it.

If you're planning on seeing that person again but you just happened to be busy or something important came up, then let them know that.

However, if you're not planning on seeing them again, be straightforward and honest about it.

How do you cancel a date without hurting someone's feelings?

To cancel a date without hurting someone's feelings, just use polite, diplomatic language. Don't place any blame on them.

But in the end, keep in mind that their feelings are not your responsibility as long as you don't do anything malicious to try to hurt them.

For more info on first dates, check out this post.


When telling someone you don’t want a second date, keep these points in mind:

  • As long as you don’t do anything malicious, their feelings are their responsibility 
  • Your message has to be polite and diplomatic, making sure you don’t place the blame on them
  • Your text needs to show that there’s no room for negotiation 

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