If going out gives you social anxiety, you're going to want to learn how to overcome your shyness in public.
In this post, I'm going to explain:
And a lot more. Let's jump into it.
Overcoming shyness in public is actually a pretty straightforward matter. That doesn't mean it's going to be easy, but you can do it with some time and dedication.
Dealing with shyness is something I had to overcome personally as well, because I grew up as kind of a shy kid and kind of a shy teenager.
Then, as an adult, it really started holding me back. And I wanted to overcome it, so I figured out some tricks to do that.
I'm going to cover some of the most common questions on the topic, and give you some simple tips to overcome your shyness in public:
Being shy to talk in public is usually anxiety about being judged, which is often a result of low confidence.
If you feel really confident in yourself, you're not going to worry too much if other people hear you. Which brings me to:
To speak confidently, try the following:
That means speak with a strong voice. Take a good deep breath before you start talking, and raise your volume.
This is something I see with clients all the time, that they don't even realize how quietly they're speaking.
One clue to know if you are speaking too quietly is if people ask you all the time to speak up, or they kind of lean in or turn their head to hear you, or they say, "what?" all the time.
To use confident body language, you can start by pulling your shoulders back and having your chest out. That's going to let you get more air in your lungs and have a stronger voice.
However, you also want to avoid other things, like sticking your hands in your pocket or looking at the ground, which are all things which will make you feel less confident.
Make eye contact every time you speak to people. Don't be looking at the ground or letting your eyes dart all over the place.
That's going to give you a chance to practice your voice, but you're also going to get a chance to get feedback from other people who are experienced in this area.
To stop being nervous around people, you need to expose yourself to more people. It's basically like exposure therapy.
Try going to parties, networking events or other social gatherings. Even go on meetup.com and find some groups you like so you can meet some strangers.
Talk to people frequently every time you're out, and it will help you to be less nervous around people.
To become more socially confident, it's going to require practice. In order to do that, you can try the following:
When you're out walking in the morning or in the afternoon, say hi to people. Say "good morning", make eye contact, smile, and just keep walking.
Or basically anybody who serves you, because in this case you're going to have a captive audience and it's going to be easier to talk to them.
Just ask how their day is going or any other basic question like that. Doesn't really matter what you talk about, but just make sure you get talking to them beyond just saying "how are you?"
Anybody… Could be someone at a crosswalk, a grocery store, a coffee shop, in a lineup, or any other place.
But if there's anybody around, start talking to them about anything you see. Ask a question, make a comment, it doesn't matter. Just get used to talking to people.
If you get better at approaching women, you're going to learn a lot of different social skills and overcome your social anxiety as well.
Plus, you'll have a chance to get some great dates. To learn how to approach women, check out this post.
And also, for more tips on how to deal with shyness, check out this post.
Here are all the answers you need to start overcoming your shyness in public:
The feeling of shyness to talk in public usually comes from having low confidence. If your confidence is higher, you’re less likely to worry about people hearing you talk.
Try the following steps:
Try going to parties, networking events or other social gatherings (even online ones) so you can get the chance to talk to more people and get progressively less nervous around them.
This will require practice. In order to do that, you can try the following:
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