This guide will show you how to meet women in any situation.
Most guys see a girl walking down the street and they look away shyly.
What if you could start a conversation with any woman you saw instead of walking away wondering, “what do I say”?
That may be you now but you’re in the right place to change your love life.
Regardless of whether you are shy, have little or no experience, or just need to get some new ideas, read further to learn the best ways to meet women.
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Contrary to popular belief, dating apps, online dating and clubs or bars are not the best places to meet women.
This is why:
Instead, try meeting women naturally to:
There are women here studying, killing time, relaxing and getting together with friends. It's an easy, relaxed place with low pressure to start a conversation. Baristas are easy to chat up in this environment too, and I’ve gotten many dates with both staff and customers at different cafes.
You could be doing errands, meeting friends, on a work break or grabbing a bite to eat, but no matter what you’re doing you’ll have to hit the street. Doing this kind of approach takes some balls and some precise social skills, but it’s a simple approach. Don’t miss all of the opportunities you could have by learning this skill.
A slow environment where it is easy to start a conversation using observational openers. By learning these conversation skills you could get a date everytime you go shopping.
Here you really get what you see because most women will be wearing bikinis. It can be intimidating but is also a fun environment to meet attractive girls.
If approaching a girl on the street is too intimidating to start then try a meetup.com group. There are endless social groups you could join to meet someone with common interest.
If you like wine then this is a must. Although a lot of couples will be here, there are always single women looking to try new wines. Alternatively try a beer tasting event.
Definitely the right place to meet women who have the same musical taste. The downside is that the loud music will make it difficult to chat, so you will rely a lot more on body language.
Most college campuses have a higher ratio of women to men, so the picking is good. You don’t necessarily have to be a student to go to a college campus to meet women. There are usually coffee shops and other public areas you can hang out in.
There will always be groups of women at restaurants which you can approach. Depending on the environment there will be different ways to approach a table. Waitresses are also great to connect with and get dates.
Softball games are usually made up of a lot of women. I used to set up casual games with my friends and we ended up getting a lot of regulars every Sunday, and this resulted in some dating between different participants.
Meeting women in public is the best way to get a date because the opportunities are endless. Any day you go out there are always women, and all you have to do is be bold enough to start a conversation. Do this every day and you’ll always have dates.
Keep reading below to learn specific methods and conversation starters.
Finding a quality girlfriend can happen almost anywhere. Although avoiding bars and clubs is usually a good idea because alcohol influences the outcome, which is not a great way to get a girlfriend.
Starting conversations and approaching women go hand in hand, so I’ve combined this topic. Read below for some conversation starters and approach tips.
This is a direct, no nonsense way to meet women. If you hate beating around the bush then you’ll love going direct.
Most direct approaches are compliment based, like “I think you’re cute” or “I love your sense of style”. You’ll quickly find out if she’s interested or not. Being this bold shows confidence too, which is attractive to women.
SaveYou’ll also feel like a man for taking the initiative.
Situational approaches are any approach which is not direct.
They can even include compliments, like telling a girl at the cafe that she has nice nails, but not being direct about your intentions. Instead, you make a compliment in passing or a random remark like, “Great colours (her nails) really matches the summer weather.”
The point is to start a conversation with a casual remark and see where it leads.
I know far too many grown men who still smell like reeking teens, and whether they know it or not, their odor problem is wreaking havoc on their personal relationships, their business prospects, and the respect people give them. —Nathan Fifield
The most common question I get is “What do I say?” or “How am I to meet women if I’m bad at small talk?”
The basic rule of thumb is focus the conversation on the girl. Whether on an approach or a date, keep the conversation about her.
It might sound boring, but ask her what she does for work. Now is where you turn it from boring to a real connection builder.
Ask her why she got into her work, or how she got into it. It’s important not to rapidly jump from topic to topic or you’ll never build a connection. Instead go deeper and learn what motivates her, what makes her tick.
The basic format to remember is “what” (What do you do?) then “why” (why did you get into X work?).
Shyness shouldn’t keep you from starting conversations with women. The main thing here is to start taking baby steps and getting comfortable with conversations.
Attend a class.
When you attend a class it changes the dynamics of meeting people. You’re already there doing something you have in common, so everyone is more relaxed. It’s also easy to start your conversation talking about the class or course.
You can also attend meetup.com social groups. This is a great way to practice getting into conversations with strangers, and build your confidence as a shy guy.
Sign up for a course or RSVP on meetup.com TODAY to make something happen. You won’t be able to overcome shyness if you stay home.
Without overthinking all of the possible scenarios, sign up online, especially for a meetup which personally interests you (like a hobby) then schedule it on your calendar.
Also go here and see the full post on building social confidence and overcoming shyness.
SHYNESS MEGA GUIDE https://www.conquerandwin.com/how-to-overcome-shyness/
When Do I Ask Her for Her Number?
This is an important skill when you learn how to meet women. Look for a moment when the conversation is going great. Maybe you got her laughing, you just told a great story, or found a subject she enjoys. Then you wait for a natural pause.
The way you ask is crucial too because this is when many guys get nervous (they are now worried about rejection). If you were chatting confidently then suddenly turn into a jellyfish when asking her out it can change the outcome.
Not just the way you say it but the wording too.
Try asking her out like this, “I have to get going but let's have a coffee sometime.”
The reason why this works is because you’re making a positive statement “let's” instead of “do you want to?” which makes you look more confident. You’re assuming the answer is “yes”.
Also keep a strong voice. If you suddenly sound like Mickey Mouse she might reconsider going out with you.
Your follow up after getting a girls phone number will be crucial.
The biggest mistakes guys make with texting are:
Instead do this:
You could write a message like this:
“Hi Julie, nice meeting you earlier. Let’s grab a drink during the week, which day works for you?”
It’s quick, simple, and gets to the point.
For the full texting guide go here: https://www.conquerandwin.com/why-women-go-cold-on-text-messages-and-how-to-write-messages-that-work/
First dates can be nerve wracking. You’re meeting up with a complete stranger, or maybe a long time crush who you finally asked out.
Either way the pressure is on. Or is it?
The best way to handle a first date is to let go of all of the pressure associated with it. This is easier said than done but there are some steps you can take below.
(Go here for the full guide: https://www.conquerandwin.com/first-date-tips/ )
If you want to succeed at meeting women you need to make a good first impression.
Always make sure your nails are trimmed short (hands and feet), and there is zero dirt underneath. She might not see your nails immediately, but nothing will ruin a good rapport like gross fingers.
A buddy of mine who’s a coach had to drag his client to the store to buy a nail clipper. It may not seem like a big deal, but women notice.
Wear clothing that fits. Baggy, ill-fitting clothing just looks sloppy. If you wear something that fits women will notice you and you’ll have more confidence.
Don’t forget the shoes. Spend the money on getting a couple nice pairs of shoes, both for dressy and casual situations. You might not think about it, but women notice.
Make sure you don’t have stains on your clothing. It’s not just for the women you might meet, but if you don’t have the self respect to stay clean you’ll lower your confidence. Self respect goes a long way.
Your hair says a lot about how well you take care of yourself. Get monthly haircuts and work and style your hair. Styling your hair just means doing something to it so it looks like you did. Don’t just walk out with a mop on your head because you woke up that way.
Trim your nose hair and the “boys”. You’ll send dates running if there are Anacondas creeping out of your nose. Trim family jewels show self care and look better.
I went to a client’s house once and was shocked at how dirty everything was.
You could see the speckles of grime everywhere, especially the “out of the way” spots that you would think nobody’s going to notice. They notice. Clean your home thoroughly on a weekly basis.
As Dr. Jordan Peterson says, make your bed everyday. It’s the first step to getting things done.
I took a friend out to help him meet women and the first thing I noticed was his car-wreck looking lips. When you’re talking to a girl she’ll notice your lips. If your lips are chapped and flaking it’s game over, so buy some lip-balm. Nobody wants to kiss dry lips.
Bad breath is a huge turnoff for both men and women. It can be a sign of bad hygiene or bad health.
To cure this:
I love a man with a great sense of humor and who is intelligent - a man who has a great smile. He has to make me laugh. I like a man who is very ambitious and driven and who has a good heart and makes me feel safe. I like a man who is very strong and independent and confident - that is very sexy - but at the same time, he's very kind to people. -Nicole Scherzinger
I love a man with a great sense of humor and who is intelligent - a man who has a great smile. He has to make me laugh. I like a man who is very ambitious and driven and who has a good heart and makes me feel safe. I like a man who is very strong and independent and confident - that is very sexy - but at the same time, he's very kind to people. —Nicole Scherzinger
If you want women to be attracted to you then stop seeking validation. It’s sort of ironic, but the less you seek their approval the more you’ll get it.
A strong, confident man doesn’t rely on women for validation. He is free to be his own man, to follow his own interests, and to develop his own life skills. That’s the kind of man women want to meet.
That’s how you should look at personal development. When you develop into a strong, confident man, it will show in all areas of your life.
It will help you get you the kind of relationship you want and keep you out of the kind you don’t want.
When men don’t have options, the moment they meet someone they cling for dear life.
No one likes neediness. It’s the fastest way to kill attraction. .
Not only do you give up your own sense of self but you’ll scare away women who have their acts together.
Neediness = A turn off for women.
Follow these steps to develop a stronger sense of self so you can stop depending on others for validation (i.e. neediness).
The goal with the above steps is to get you taking action on some of the most significant areas of your life. It’s not an exhaustive list but these areas will help you shed needy behavior.
When you learn how to meet women confidently and know you can do it any time, the women you meet will no longer seem like “the one” every single time. You’ll be able to make good relationship decisions.
Just like you shouldn’t grocery shop when you’re hungry, don’t date when you’re desperate. It’s almost guaranteed to end in bad choices.
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