Do you love country life, but have no idea how to meet women in a small town?
Living in a small town has a lot of perks but the dating scene can be limited.
The good news is that you can get a girlfriend in a small town. You’re not the only one on the lookout for dates.
But where do you start looking?
The first thing you must do is be active. You can’t meet anyone on your sofa.
If you want to meet singles in your area, keep reading because I’m going to explain how to end your single-streak.
And more. So let’s go into it below.
Being single in a small town carries a number of challenges.
You’re faced with these obstacles:
So these are your main challenges, let’s go into the solutions.
To find love in a small town it’s important to start with your dating goals. What exactly do you want?
If your main goal is a long term relationship then quality is going to be crucial. You don’t want to take on a long term partner just because she was the only option.
If you’re interested in playing the field, quality is important but not as important. Your dates aren’t going to be carrying your children or helping you make life decisions.It’s just for fun.
Once you’ve decided your main goal then it will help you define your strategy.
The answer to these questions is actually mostly the same regardless if you’re in a big city or a small town. Think about places like: bars, clubs, parks, gyms, events, etc.
The one factor which is the same in all of these scenarios is you. You’ll need to learn the right social skills and build confidence to approach women in person.
Here are your best options to meet women in public.
Perhaps the easiest place to meet a girl is at a bar. Bars have fun, relaxed and easygoing atmospheres. People go there to be social and meet new people.
Naturally, not everyone who visits a bar is single. But you’ll never know who’s single and who isn’t unless you get out there and start chatting to people.
When visiting a bar to meet girls, there are a few “rules” you need to abide by.
Firstly, dress well. Wear clothes that fit you and suit you, and which you feel comfortable in.
Secondly, smile! If you smile at a woman, it can be the first point of contact that leads to a conversation. Remember, first impressions are everything.
Thirdly, don’t walk around like a man intent on picking a girl up. Be casual and cool. Rock up at the bar on a stool and keep things chilled. If a woman comes to the bar and looks nice, smile at her and say hi.
Fourthly, while it’s always a good idea to approach women who are on their own, it’s unlikely that a woman will be on her own at a bar. If she’s with her friends (and she probably will be), involve everyone in the conversation.
Introduce yourself to them all but put most of your attention on the girl you like.
Exactly which activities you participate in depends on your level of confidence.
For example, one of the best activities you can try is salsa dancing since you get paired up with a woman you dance with for the evening. Naturally, whether you try salsa dancing depends on how comfortable you are with dancing.
Lower key activities you can try include cooking classes, art classes and even creative writing classes. In fact, anything creative is a great way to meet women because they invite discussion. You can share ideas and get to know new people.
You can also go to open mic nights. Although this is fairly loud, it’s still possible to meet women at the bar before and after the music has started. And because there’s a bar, you can grab a drink and chat about music before moving onto other topics.
While dating in a small town can be challenging, paradoxically, some of these “challenges” can actually help you. For example, it can feel impossible for a shy man to talk to a woman in person, which is even worse in big cities.
Here are some simple steps to approach a girl in public:
To start dating in a small town, find different events in your area and make a shortlist of the ones you want to try. Set a goal for yourself to go to one a week.
Along with this, start becoming a regular at a few spots around town. You will start to see people you recognize and be able to strike up a conversation about the different things you’ve been doing.
If you still find it difficult to meet people in your town, the solution could be simple: try traveling regularly.
Start by traveling to the nearest large towns on weekends. This will help you expand your network and give you the chance to meet more people.
Dating apps work well in small towns because you can connect with others easily. You don’t need the confidence necessary for street approaches.
The same limits apply though. There are fewer women on dating apps in rural areas, you’ll have limited options. Expand your area to open up your options.
Tinder works better in highly populous cities because there are more people available, but it still works in the suburbs.
To get the most out of Tinder, you can ask a friend to choose your best pics. Adding a few interesting and amusing lines to your bio will help your profile standout, too.
And if you find that you’re not getting enough matches, consider increasing your location range or traveling on the weekends, so you can expand your radius and meet new people.
You can meet women in bars and clubs, as well as the local gym. These are the best places to meet women not online because they have a relaxed atmosphere and people are (generally) open to chatting.
And while you can open with a simple “hi,” it’s always better to open with something more interesting, creative and - if possible - funny. However you approach a woman, make sure to keep the conversation moving forward at all times and to get her number before things fizzle out.
Before you find a good woman, understand what YOU want first. What are your values and what values do you want a woman to have? Are you looking for a hookup or something longer term?
Knowing the answer to this question will make it easier to go to the right places where you might meet a woman on your level.
Avoiding a bad reputation is mostly about not burning bridges. It’s ok to date multiple women, but make sure everyone is on the same page.
During a breakup, never do anything out of spite.
Stay positive and “cool” regardless of her behavior. People will see how you handle stressful situations. This will show what kind of man you are.
Have you had success meeting women in small towns? Leave a comment below with your tips.