How To Meet Older Women

Every guy has their preference or their fantasy for the women they want to meet. And for a lot of guys, that's going to have to do with the age range.

If you'd like to know how to meet older women, this is the post for you.

No matter if you like the more mature women mature because of their personalities, their sexual experience, or the way they look, I'll teach you how to meet them.

It could be for short term relationships or long term relationships. It doesn't really matter. You get to decide.

When we're talking about "older women", that could be any age range.

You could be a 20 year old who's interested in 30 year olds or a 40 year old who's interested in 55 year olds. That's up to you and depends on where you're at.

For me, the question isn't really how to meet older women. If you want to meet older women, they're everywhere.

Every time you step out of your door and walk on the street, you are going to see women who are older than you.

The real question is, what is stopping you? Why are you not talking to these older women who are everywhere?

You could go online and make it easy. All you have to do is set your filters correctly.

As long as their filters for age match your age range, then you're in luck. You're going to find lots of older women you can message.

Or if you don't like online dating and you want to meet women naturally, then you have to look at the face of the woman you want to talk to and go talk to her. It really is that simple.

Of course, it's not as simple when we're talking about your courage. When you see someone you want to talk to, you're going to get anxiety and think of all sorts of excuses of why you shouldn't talk to her.

You're going to think: "she looks busy", "she looks mean", "I'm in a rush". You'll come up with an endless number of excuses of why you shouldn't talk to her.

However, you need to be focusing on the one reason you should talk to her, which is because you want to. Because you're attracted to her.

The Direct Approach

In terms of how to meet older women, let's talk about the direct approach.

If you have enough courage and you have the balls to go do this, this is something you can get good at.

You can start meeting women everywhere you go, whether you're traveling or you're in your own city, it doesn't matter.

As soon as you identify what is an "older woman", it's going to be up to you to go and talk to her.

There's actually a couple of really good ways to do this in public.

Of course, I've already mentioned online dating. All you have to do is set your filters, so we're not going to talk about that here.

Let's start with the direct approach.

A direct approach is just like it sounds. You walk up to a woman and you let her know directly why you are talking to her.

From personal experience and from over the last 11 years of coaching and watching guys in the field, I can say that walking up and blurting out a compliment usually doesn't work that well.

It's better if you get her attention first and paint a picture for her, like what was happening right before you saw her.

You were walking down the street, you were sitting on a park bench, you were sitting in the coffee shop having a coffee. Tell her that. It's really simple.

You're just going to explain exactly what was happening before you went to talk to her. It's going to go something like this:

"Hey, I know this sounds unusual, but I was just sitting in a coffee shop over there having my coffee and you walked past and I had to come out here and say hi because I thought you looked fantastic".

That's it. After that it's time to get into a conversation, get to know her, see if you can make a connection.

You already know what you're attracted to, so you're going to be able to identify an older woman very easily. It's up to you to get off your a** and go talk to her.

The Indirect Approach

The second method is indirect. It's when you're making a comment on something.

Like, you'd be in a line up at a coffee shop or line up in the grocery store and you make some random comment about the environment you're in or the groceries in her cart or something else.

Make sure that it's directly relevant to what's around you. Let's say, for example, you're looking at soup and there happens to be an attractive older woman looking at soup too.

You're both really into Campbell's. And you like her can. I mean, the soup she's holding.

When you see her deciding which can of Campbell's she wants, you look at her and you say: "it's hard to make a choice with so many options". And that's it.

It's going to be up to you to carry on the conversation. Obviously, you're starting with a soup. You don't want to carry on the entire conversation talking about the soup.

You're going to have to learn about her. That's going to be an entire other post to talk about how to take the conversation further.

Go out there and experiment and try for yourself.

There are a ton of older women out there waiting for you just to start the conversation with them, just to have a little courage and give it a shot.

But now I want to know what you think. Leave me a comment below and let me know how you like to start conversations with older women.


If you really think about it, older women are everywhere. It just takes a bit of courage on your part to start meeting them and having conversations with them.

And to do that, there are two methods I’d recommend you try:

  1. The direct approach: this is the kind of approach where you let her know exactly why you’re talking to her. You’re going to explain what was happening before, and build a conversation off of that
  2. The indirect approach: here is when you make a comment about something that’s relevant to your surroundings. After that, you should shift the conversation to her so you can make a connection and take it further

That's it for today.  If you have any comments or questions, leave them below.

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