How can you know if a woman wants you to approach?
There are signs which will make it much easier for you to know if a woman wants you to approach her directly.
In this post, you’ll learn:
And a lot more. Continue reading to learn how to get better at knowing if a woman wants you to approach:
What's the number one sign that a woman wants you to approach? A smile.
It's a guaranteed friendly invite. But, it doesn't actually mean she's going to want to go out with you.
There are a lot of different reasons why a woman may smile at you, including just being friendly. She may happen to catch your eye contact and smile 'cause she's friendly.
The advantage here is now she's aware of you and if you approach her, you've already made eye contact. You're not a complete stranger anymore when walking up to her.
And because you've got this friendly gesture, she's not going to suddenly turn face and become mean.
The reality of this is that you're never going to get a 100% sure shot guarantee. Despite that, a smile can be a sign that a woman wants you to approach. A very good, friendly sign.
It often happens that women will look at you and make eye contact because they do want to talk to you. But they're not going to make the first move.
That's where your courage comes in. You have to go talk to her after making that initial contact.
As soon as you get that sign, that smile, go talk to her right away. Approach her and say "excuse me". Get her attention. You don't need to say anything fancy.
Explain the situation by saying something simple. For example: "Hey, I was just walking past you and I saw you smile and I thought you have a fantastic smile."
And that's it. Mention the fact that you saw her smile to establish that contact you need for your approach.
After that, you can have a conversation to see if it goes anywhere. And to make that conversation as effective as possible, talk about her. People like talking about themselves.
You should be curious about her and learn about her. That's all you need to do to guide the conversation in the right direction. And of course, at the end, ask her out.
It doesn't matter if you want to approach a girl directly or if you want to start a conversation in other ways. You want to wait for a smile before you approach her.
Now, let's talk about what the major pitfall of waiting for signs is.
If you're waiting for signs, you're going to be waiting forever. You may get smiles sometimes. Or maybe you get smiled at a lot. Still, you're going to miss a ton of opportunities where the woman didn't even see you or didn't give you any signs.
She may have seen you and looked away. It doesn't mean she doesn't want to talk to you. By taking initiative, you have a chance to influence an outcome. You may get a date out of that.
Most of the dates I've had have come from approaches on the street or other situations where I didn't get a sign.
In fact, my now wife didn't even see me when she walked by. But I saw her. And when I ran back to talk to her, she was kind of surprised.
Fast forward to eight years later, we're still together. And the vast majority of the other times that I've gotten dates, it has always been without signs.
I don't wait for signs and neither should you. Waiting is a passive behavior, which is the opposite of what's going to attract women.
You need to have courage, take initiative and show assertiveness. Go after what you want. Don't wait for her to give you a sign or permission to go talk to her first.
Here are two key points that will help you learn the skill of approaching:
Approaching is a learned skill. There's a lot more to it than what I've explained in this post. Click here to learn more.
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