Do you want to learn how to practice having confidence and approaching women, but you're not sure how to get the confidence to do it in the first place?
In this post, you'll learn:
And much more. Keep reading to start learning:
Here are some practical exercises you can use to build your social confidence and approach women:
Saying "Hi" or "Good morning" when you pass people is an easy way to start establishing contact with others and making it normal to talk to strangers.
When you're in a store or you're dealing with a cashier, make a comment on something you see. Something very simple. It has to be something in your environment.
It can be another person, but it just has to be something obvious and easy.
You can ask a simple question to anybody in a shop or any kind of store, including the people working there.
When you're walking down the street, make eye contact with people you pass. Don't stare, and don't try to do an aggressive kind of thing. Just keep soft eye contact.
Make eye contact briefly. If they look away, you look away and keep walking. If they smile, then you smile too. It's very simple.
Go approach women, start conversations with them. Be direct about your intentions and why you're approaching. This will start building a lot of social confidence.
But how do you get over approaching anxiety?
The other four exercises I mentioned will help you build your social confidence and conversational skills. But, when it comes down to actually approaching, it's going to take cold approaches to get over that social anxiety.
Here are some tricks that can help you grease your gears and make it easier to start approaching:
Don't think about the whole conversation or asking her out or whether she's going to like you or not. Just focus on opening.
As soon as you see the girl you want to talk to, you need to start walking to her. The longer you wait, the more your fear is going to grow, and chances are she's going to disappear as well.
When you start getting anxiety, it's important to take a breath so you can detach yourself from the situation and start calming your nervous system.
You don't need lines, and you don't need to memorize anything when you're going to talk to a girl. Focus on being sincere and stating your intentions upfront.
If you're trying to impress women, it's going to put an undue amount of pressure on yourself and it just doesn't work.
Typically, when guys are trying to impress women, they start being actors instead of being themselves.
Confident body language isn't only going to project what kind of man you are to the people you're talking to and be more attractive women, but it's going to make you feel better as well. It's going to make you feel more confident and calm your anxiety.
You gotta get your hands out of your pockets, stand straight, keep your head up, and don't crain your neck or look at the ground.
Basically, don't do anything that an insecure guy would do. If you do the opposite, it’ll make you feel more confident.
You don't have to have a lot of approaches, but before you go, set an intention. Say, "Hey, I'm going to go talk to the first beautiful woman I see and do my best".
You don't have to set a really high bar for expectations, otherwise you're going to be setting yourself up for failure. Just make sure that you go out and you talk to somebody.
By setting that intention, at least you're going to have it in the back of your mind, so that when you come across the right girl, you'll go and have a better chance of actually going to talk to her.
Here you can find the summary of steps you can easily follow:
Do you have any methods which have worked for you to overcome approaching anxiety? Let me know in the comments below.
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