You just started dating a girl and you're wondering how to get to know a girl over text.
Well, the reality is you really shouldn't be trying to get to know her over text, but there are some exceptions.
Especially if you're in a long distance relationship or you're in a situation where you can hardly get a chance to meet her.
If that's you, keep reading. In this post, I'm going to explain:
And a lot more. Let's jump into it.
I'm going to focus on guys who are in long distance relationships or just so busy that it's hard to get a date, it's hard to go out and meet a girl that you like.
But, anyone can use these strategies. Even if you just met a girl.
However, you need to learn why you shouldn't get to know a girl over text in the first place.
If you have time and you're not in a long distance relationship, this is really one of the worst strategies to try to get to know a girl.
When you're texting with her, you're missing your eye contact, hand gestures, body language, voice, and all these other cues which are going to signal your attraction for her.
It's also much easier for her to misinterpret what you're saying by text. If you send a miscommunication and she gets the wrong impression, that could be it.
If she's avoiding meeting you and that's why you want to get to know her over text, then it's basically already over.
There's not much point in messaging with her because she's just wasting your time.
A lot of girls won't mind texting you even though they won't meet you. It's not worth sticking around and continuing to message girls who aren't serious enough to go face to face.
Another exception would be if you've already been dating for a long time and naturally are going to start texting each other more and more. That's fine.
You can have conversations by text, but it's the same thing.
You're still going to be missing a lot of communication points that
are better communicated in person, but it's natural to start texting with somebody that you like a lot.
If she's participating, you're having active conversations and it's all good, you probably don't need this post at all.
Try these strategies to get to know girl over text if you're in a long distance relationship:
People like talking about themselves, so get her to talk about herself.
You're going to want to find out what kind of mutual interest you have.
It's going to be a lot easier to chat and throw some energy into it and some enthusiasm if you're interested too.
It's a great way to build enthusiasm, because you're talking about future ambitions, things you're really interested in, a future, a lifestyle you want.
It's going to be a lot easier to have that back and forth communication.
If you're in a long distance relationship, or you can't meet each other very often, plan to meet each other.
Set up some kind of date and something you look forward to so it's not just texting.
Learn what's behind her interests and what drives her.
Find out what she aspires to and why.
Pay attention to what she writes.
That way it's going to be a lot easier to continue a conversation, because you can follow up on different threads of topics that she's mentioned.
If you have to wait to actually meet her, try to get some video chats if you can. Even if it's really short.
It doesn't have to be long, and in fact, it's better if it is short. Keep it short and sweet.
But at least you'll have some visual communication in there as well.
If you’re in a long distance relationship, you can try these strategies:
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