How To Get To Know A Girl Over Text (8 Strategies That Never Fail)

You just started dating a girl and you're wondering how to get to know a girl over text.

Well, the reality is you really shouldn't be trying to get to know her over text, but there are some exceptions.

Especially if you're in a long distance relationship or you're in a situation where you can hardly get a chance to meet her.

If that's you, keep reading. In this post, I'm going to explain:

  • How you can get to know a girl over text
  • Things you can do to avoid scaring her away
  • Strategies to get to know a girl over text if you’re in a long distance relationship

And a lot more. Let's jump into it.

Why You Shouldn't Get To Know A Girl Over Text

I'm going to focus on guys who are in long distance relationships or just so busy that it's hard to get a date, it's hard to go out and meet a girl that you like.

But, anyone can use these strategies. Even if you just met a girl.

However, you need to learn why you shouldn't get to know a girl over text in the first place.

If you have time and you're not in a long distance relationship, this is really one of the worst strategies to try to get to know a girl.

When you're texting with her, you're missing your eye contact, hand gestures, body language, voice, and all these other cues which are going to signal your attraction for her.

It's also much easier for her to misinterpret what you're saying by text. If you send a miscommunication and she gets the wrong impression, that could be it.

If she's avoiding meeting you and that's why you want to get to know her over text, then it's basically already over.

There's not much point in messaging with her because she's just wasting your time.

A lot of girls won't mind texting you even though they won't meet you. It's not worth sticking around and continuing to message girls who aren't serious enough to go face to face.

Another exception would be if you've already been dating for a long time and naturally are going to start texting each other more and more. That's fine.

You can have conversations by text, but it's the same thing.

You're still going to be missing a lot of communication points that

are better communicated in person, but it's natural to start texting with somebody that you like a lot.

If she's participating, you're having active conversations and it's all good, you probably don't need this post at all.

Strategies To Get To Know Girl Over Text

Try these strategies to get to know girl over text if you're in a long distance relationship:

#1. Focus On Her

People like talking about themselves, so get her to talk about herself.

#2. Talk About A Mutual Interest

You're going to want to find out what kind of mutual interest you have.

It's going to be a lot easier to chat and throw some energy into it and some enthusiasm if you're interested too.

#3. Talk About Future Plans And Ambitions

It's a great way to build enthusiasm, because you're talking about future ambitions, things you're really interested in, a future, a lifestyle you want.

It's going to be a lot easier to have that back and forth communication.

#4. Plan Trips Or Plan To Meet Each Other

If you're in a long distance relationship, or you can't meet each other very often, plan to meet each other.

Set up some kind of date and something you look forward to so it's not just texting.

#5. Learn Why She Likes What She Likes

Learn what's behind her interests and what drives her.

#6. Learn About Her Ideal Lifestyle

Find out what she aspires to and why.

#7. Pay Attention

Pay attention to what she writes.

That way it's going to be a lot easier to continue a conversation, because you can follow up on different threads of topics that she's mentioned.

#8. Talk Over Video Chat

If you have to wait to actually meet her, try to get some video chats if you can. Even if it's really short.

It doesn't have to be long, and in fact, it's better if it is short. Keep it short and sweet.

But at least you'll have some visual communication in there as well.

Strategies To Get To Know Girl Over Text (Summary)

If you’re in a long distance relationship, you can try these strategies:

  1. Focus on her: get her to talk about herself and share 
  2. Talk about a mutual interest: it’ll be easier to chat and be excited if you're interested too
  3. Talk about future plans and ambitions: it’ll make it easier to communicate back and forth 
  4. Plan trips or plan to meet each other: set up some kind of date so it's not just texting
  5. Learn why she likes what she likes: learn what's behind her interests 
  6. Learn about her ideal lifestyle: find out what she aspires to and why
  7. Pay attention: that way you’ll be able to follow up in different threads of topics she’s mentioned 
  8. Talk over video chat: it doesn’t have to be long, but it’ll allow you to get in some visual communication 

For more about how to text a girl, check out this post.

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