How To Get Laid On The First Date (FAST)

Getting into how to get laid on the first date is one of my favorite topics, and it's also one of the most frustrating topics to deal with as a dating coach.

Because oddly enough, most guys are actually just too scared to get laid on the first date.

That may sound odd, but very often guys will convince themselves that "it's not time yet". They'll sabotage themselves with ideas like, "she's not like that", like she's some kind of angel.

Or, "she doesn't want to get laid", or, "I have to go slowly" or, "I'm not in a rush, I can take my time. It's all good". Another one is "I'm interested in a relationship". What all these excuses break down to is fear.

Guys are scared of getting rejected. They're not confident sexually, they're not confident to invite women home.

They think if they walk on eggshells and tread carefully, then their date will like them more and they won't scare them away.

In reality, this mindset just makes guys look like they've been neutered or like they have no balls, and that is unattractive to women.

You're not going to attract women by acting scared. If you want to learn how to get laid on the first date, keep reading.

How To Get Laid On The First Date

Taking a woman home on the first date is not complicated. In fact, it's just as easy as asking her home.

You can't get some magical pill or some special words that are going to entice women home. But, you can be direct, and that's almost as good.

And why is that? Because women are attracted to a guy who has some courage, a guy who's willing to ask, a guy who is assertive.

If you're too afraid to even ask your date home, then I hate to break it to you, but your fate is already sealed.

You're going to be going home alone and role playing the only character you know how to roleplay from Star Wars: Han Solo.

However, if you're willing to reach deep inside of yourself and summon your ancestral instincts, then you can start getting laid on your first date.

Here are some simple steps so you can learn how to get laid in your first date:

#1. Have A Simple Date

Ask her out for a coffee, a tea, or even a drink. Don't overcomplicate it, especially if it's the first time you're meeting her.

#2. Focus On Connection

Talk about her and keep strong eye contact. Maybe a little bit of touch... if there's an opportunity. But don't force it.

#3. Stop Worrying

Don't worry if your date is going well or not.

Very often, that's just an excuse for guys to get out of asking their date home so they can avoid their fear, basically.

I've taken many dates home after seemingly "boring" conversations, because it's not about the conversation.

#4. Ask Her Home Quickly

Within an hour or so into the date, maybe less, ask her home.

#5. Be Straightforward

It's best if you ask her directly without messing around. One way you ask her home is, "hey, let's go back to my place".

And that's really it. That's all you have to do. She's either going to say yes, she's going to ask why, or she's going to make an excuse.

Or she can even be more direct and say she's not ready yet. If she asks why, just say, "because I want to take you home".

Be direct and honest about it, instead of making some excuse that you want to take her home and "watch kitten videos".

And don't worry, because if she says no, that doesn't mean you're not going to have another chance.

You may have another chance that night if you stick around, or you may have another chance on the second date.

At least you've put your intentions on the table, and now she's aware and things will probably go a lot smoother.

Or, you'll probably be able to move on to your next date, since now she knows you're an assertive man who has some balls.

The Right Mindset To Get Laid On The First Date

Here are some points that can help you get on the right mindset:

#1. Faster Is Better

Don't listen to that voice in your head that's telling you to go slow, that's just fear.

#2. Try To Get Laid On Every First Date

If you ask every woman home every time you go on a first date, a lot of them are going to say yes.


Now, some common questions I get about getting laid on a first date.

Should you sleep together on a first date?

Sleeping together on a first date is a personal choice, but it's also a great way to try before you buy.

How do you seduce a woman on a first date?

To seduce a woman on a first date, first, focus on making a connection, especially with eye contact.

Second, use your voice. Speak slower, speak confidently and be very direct.

For more info on first dates, check out this post.


Getting laid on the first date is not as hard as it seems. You just need to remember these points:

  1. Have a simple date: ask her out for something simple like a coffee, a tea, or a drink.
  2. Focus on connection: talk about her and keep strong eye contact so she’s comfortable
  3. Stop worrying: avoid thinking about how the date is going, that’s almost always an excuse to get out of asking her home
  4. Ask her home quickly: ask her home an hour into the date, or even less if possible
  5. Be straightforward: ask her home directly so your intentions are clear. Don’t worry if she says no, you most likely are going to get another chance to ask her

The right mindset to get laid on the first date

The right mindset is also very simple. There’s just two things to it: asking faster is better and trying to get laid on every first date.

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