How To Get A Girl To Like You Over Text

So you got a girl's number, and now you're wondering how to get a girl to like you over text?

Well, the thing is, if you got her number already, it should be clear that she already does like you.

The trick here now is just to set up the date. So, what's the hold up then?

If you're asking this question, it's probably a mindset that's actually holding you back from getting the girls you like.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • How to get a girl to like you over text
  • How to actually get a date with her
  • How to avoid the biggest mistake that's pushing her away

And so much more. Let's jump into it.

Why You Shouldn't Try To Make Girls Like You Over Text

Let's start with why it's a bad idea to try to make girls like you over text.

For starters, you got her number, and she wouldn't have given you her number if she wasn't interested in some way.

Unless she was like one of those lizards that drop their tail when a predator attacks them. Then the predator goes after the tail, which keeps wiggling (that's the number).

If that is the case, then nothing you do by text is going to make her like you.

But if she does like you and she gave you her number because she likes you, then the thing to do right now is to follow up with her and get a date.

You don't want to be stuck messaging back and forth, because it's very easy to miscommunicate things and end up pushing girls away when they're waiting for you to ask them out.

If she's one of these girls who dropped her lizard tail to distract you, then it's time to move on and find a new girl.

If not, it's time to invite her out on a date before you lose your opportunity.

Because the longer you wait, the chances of you not getting a date with her increase. So, strike while the iron is hot.

How To Get A Girl To Like You Over Text

You can't really make girls like you over text, but there are things you can do to avoid making her dislike you and run away.

In effect, you're basically going to make her like you more for not acting needy.

This means that you sort of can make her like you by text, but it's really about not texting. Follow these guidelines to increase your odds and get her out on a date:

#1. Don't Text Often

If you text too often, it'll make you look like you don't have anything else going on, like you're not seeing any other girls, or you don't have any other options.

When guys look too interested, it typically makes girls disinterested. Of course being interested is fine, but overdoing it is going to kill the attraction.

If a few days have passed, it’s possible that she hasn’t answered because she’s busy. However, a general rule of thumb is that if it has already been a week without response, then it’s time to move on.

#2. Don't Send Her Your Life Story

Save all your stories for when you see her in person and you actually get to meet her. You can do a lot more there with your voice, your body language and your eye contact.

Everything else is going to come together and help you create a better connection than if you're doing it by text.

Nobody really wants to read a big block of text on their phone anyways, or at least most people don't.

But, there is a way of making your messages more personal and effective. I’ll share with you some of them:

  • Always use her name
  • Make it a point to reminder her of when and how you two met
  • Ask them out to do something related to what you’ve been talking about

#3. Only Text Her To Set Up A Date

Unless she texts you. If she wants to have a conversation and she's texting you, that's fine. Reciprocate, get involved. That's perfectly fine.

She's obviously interested in doing that. But remember, unless she's texting you, avoid sending her messages frivolously.

#4. Text More If Your Relationship Grows

As your relationship develops, you're probably going to start texting more often, and that's fine.

As long as she's reciprocating, go bonkers. It doesn't really matter.

There isn't anything you can text her to make her like you more. Only time and your personality as a man are going to do that for you.

For more info on texting, check out this post.


There are two main things you need to remember about getting a girl to like you over text:

Why you shouldn’t try do it in the first place

  • If she gave you her number just to distract you, then nothing you do by text is going to make her like you
  • If she gave you her number because she likes you, then you need to follow up with her and get a date
  • Strike while the iron is hot, because the longer you wait, the more the chances of not getting a date increase

Steps to get a girl to like you over text

If you still want to try and do this, follow these guidelines:

  1. Don't text often: don’t be too interested, it’ll most likely kill the attraction
  2. Don't send her your life story: save your stories for when you see her in person so you can build a better connection
  3. Only text her to set up a date: avoid sending her lots of messages unless she’s texting you and reciprocating
  4. Text more if your relationship grows: as long as she’s reciprocating, it’s fine to start texting more

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