How To Follow Up After A First Date (Try This)

So, you had a great date and you want to see her again, and now you’re wondering how to follow up after the first date.

Well, I follow the kiss rule, which is keep it simple. Normally, the most direct method here is the best.

Because if she likes you, it doesn't matter what you invite her out for, she's going to be interested in seeing you.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • How to follow up after a first date via text
  • The answer to some common questions on following up after a first date

And a lot more. Keep reading to find out:

How To Follow Up After A First Date

This is a text message follow up, obviously, but you can call her if you want.

Most people prefer text nowadays, and it's really not necessary to call. But if you're feeling confident on the phone, then go for that instead.

However, if you'd like to do it by text, you can try this:

"Hey, Maggie, let's get together again next week. Which day works for you?"

There you go, that's literally all you need. You don't need to overthink how to follow up after the first date because if she already likes you, she's going to want to see you.

You don't need some kind of special follow up to get her enticed to come out to see you again.

On that same logic, if she doesn't like you, it doesn't really matter how you follow up because nothing can get her out to meet you again.

She's going to be "busy", or she might just be direct, or she might say she likes you as a friend or something else like that nobody wants to hear.

If you want to invite her up for something specific like a coffee or a drink or go to the fair, or have a picnic or whatever, then that's good too. You can add that into your first message.

Remember: if you keep it simple and get to the point, you won't have any problem setting up that date.


Here are some common questions about following up after a first date:

How soon should I follow up after a first date?

It really depends on your own schedule. If you're extremely busy, then maybe you're going to follow up a little bit later.

But keep it within one to three days max, while you are still fresh in her memory.

Should I follow up with a text after a first date?

Yes, you can follow up with a text after a first date.

This is the easiest way to communicate and it's the standard way of communicating nowadays, so she's going to be expecting that.

For more info on first dates, check out this post.


Here are some important points you need to keep in mind when following up after a first date:

  1. Texting is the standard way of communicating nowadays, so  that’s what she’ll expect. This means it’s not necessary to call, but if you’re feeling confident enough, you can go for that instead 
  1. Don’t overthink your follow up text. If she likes you, she’s going to want to see you again and if she doesn’t, nothing you do will change her mind
  1. Make sure send that follow up text one to three days after your first date so you’re still fresh on her memory

If you have any questions or comments, don’t hesitate to leave them below.

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