How To Compliment A Girl Over Text (The Best Method)

Alright, you're reading this article because you want to know how to compliment a girl over text.

The answer is don't. But if you want to do it anyway, keep reading.

In this article, I'm going to explain:

  • The best way to compliment a girl over text
  • The reasons why you shouldn't do it
  • What to do instead

And a lot more. Keep reading to find out:

Why You Shouldn't Compliment Girls Over Text

A lot of this depends on your scenario: Have you known this girl for a long time?  Is it somebody you're already dating or is it someone you just met?

With someone you just met, you shouldn't be sending compliments over text. It looks needy.

Typically, when guys are sending compliments, especially a lot of compliments, it's because they're hoping to get something back.

They think that by sending a girl a compliment that she's going to fall magically in love with him or be attracted to him by virtue of his compliment giving, which doesn't work that way.

Sincere compliments are great, but you don't want to overdo it in any case.

Sending compliments to girls over text will validate her but do absolutely nothing for you. It's not going to improve your position or her interest in you.

Another downside is that it can look like you're trying too hard.

If you're a guy who has shit going on and you're calm, cool, and collected, or you can hold your own and you're not desperate for any girl, it's very unlikely you're going to be sending a whole bunch of confidence to a girl over text.

Even in person, if you're already dating her, giving her compliments is not going to make her like you more.

I don't want to make it sound like I'm completely against compliments. Actually, one of the approaches I've used requires a compliment to get it started.

That's it for the opener. Once you tell her why you're there and you tell her you thought she was really cute or whatever, that's kind of where it ends.

You're just giving her the reason. That's why you came to talk to her. And if a guy keeps giving compliments after that point, it's going to create that meaty look. It's not a good fit.

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How To Compliment A Girl Over Text

If you still really want to send her a compliment over text, just keep these rules of thumb in mind:

#1. Don't Overdo It

Just like spice, or adding too much salt or any other kind of comparison like that, overdoing it is going to create an overwhelming flavor.

#2. Keep The Compliment Chill

Keep the compliment chill and low-key or however you want to describe it. Don't give her a really strong compliment.

Focus on something that's kind of a subtle compliment, something that's nice and light.

#3. Keep It Very Infrequent

If you ever give her a compliment over text, make sure you're not sending your compliment over text every week or every day or even every month.

You're going to have to pay this by ear and see how your relationship is developing and decide what's going to be best for you.

Keeping it infrequent is going to make it a lot more sincere too.

She's actually going to appreciate any compliments you give her because she's going to know you've done it before.

It's better to compliment her on something she's done as opposed to her appearance. She already knows you find her attractive.

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Occasionally you get it very infrequently. You might bring up something you like about her physically, but it's better to compliment the things she's done.

Compliment her mind and she'll appreciate those more, generally speaking.

Obviously, things are going to change as your relationship develops and you get to know each other and have a good connection with each other.

You have to be too restrained about how you're complimenting her or not complimenting her and have some kind of special formula. You're just going to do it when you want to do it.

If you feel like it, that's totally fine in a serious relationship. It's good to give some compliments, it's good to give some praise and positive reinforcement.

How often you compliment her is something you should decide based on what kind of relationship you have. When you're just starting a date, keep it a lot more sparse.

For full information on how to text a girl, check out this post.

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Steps To Compliment A Girl Over Text (Summary)

  1. Don't overdo it
  2. Keep the compliment chill: focus on something that's a subtle, nice and light compliment 
  3. Keep it very infrequent: she's going to appreciate any compliments you give her

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