How To Cold Approach A Woman (The best method)

If you've ever seen a really attractive woman that you wanted to talk to but you didn't know what to say, then you need to learn how to cold approach.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • How to cold approach a woman
  • What to say on your approach
  • The best way to ask her out on a date

And much more. Keep reading to find out:

What's A Cold Approach?

A cold approach, just like it sounds, is the opposite of a warm approach.

In a warm approach, you're going to be in a mutual environment with somebody else. It's not a cold environment like the street, for example.

You might be at a party or even a bar where you're part of the same environment.

You can still do cold approaches at bars, but it's a lot warmer than the kind of approaches I like to teach.

And cold approaching is much more difficult because there's a lot of unknowns and you need some balls to do it.

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But, learning to do cold approaches is so much more versatile than waiting to get introduced by friends or meeting and going to a party.

The reason it's so versatile is because you can do it from anywhere. Anytime you go out to the street, to the grocery store, to the coffee shop, you can always cold approach a woman.

But, if you're waiting for parties or other social events, you're limited to those events only.

So, here's your quick guide on how to cold approach women in public:

How To Cold Approach A Woman

#1. Walk Up To Her And Get Her Attention

Just start with a simple "Excuse me" and a hand gesture, especially if she has earphones in. But, you want her to see that you're approaching as well.

Don't do it from directly behind her. Make sure she sees you in her peripheral vision.

#2. Keep Out Of Her Personal Bubble

My general rule of thumb is if I can reach my arm out (I'm a tall guy) and I can't touch her, that's probably a good amount of space.

We're talking about four to six feet here. So, if you're shorter, you're probably going to want to add an extra arm length.

#3. Don't Walk With Her

If you walk up to a woman who happens to be walking, once you get her attention, time yourself.

Don't keep walking with her. Give her a chance to walk away if she's not interested in having a conversation.

Plus, it shows some leadership right away. If you stop, that's the first step in leading a relationship if it goes any further. And that's what you want as a man.

#4. Tell Her Exactly Why You're There

Don't beat around the bush, just get straight to the point. Tell her you saw her, she looked really nice and you had to come meet her.

#5. Ask Her Out

If everything goes well and it seems like you can go somewhere, then just say, "Hey, let's have a coffee sometime". Done. Finito.

That's a simplified version. This takes a lot of practice to get good at.

The biggest thing to overcome, really, is your own fear. It's going to be your own anxiety and all your doubts about going to talk to a woman that you have no idea about, right?

But remember, if you're sincere in your approach, it'll go a long way towards getting dates and getting a lot more attractive women.

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Steps To Cold Approach A Woman

These are the steps you should follow if you want to learn how to do cold approaches:

  1. Walk up to her and get her attention: start with a simple "Excuse me" and a hand gesture, especially if she has earphones in. When you do this, make sure she sees you in her peripheral vision
  1. Keep out of her personal bubble: my general rule of thumb is if I can reach my arm out and I can't touch her, that's probably a good amount of space. We're talking about four to six feet here
  1. Don't walk with her: if you walk up to a woman who happens to be walking, once you get her attention, don't keep walking with her. Give her a chance to walk away if she's not interested in having a conversation
  1. Tell her exactly why you're there: don't beat around the bush, just get straight to the point
  1. Ask her out: if everything goes well and it seems like you can go somewhere, then just say, "Hey, let's have a coffee sometime"

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