How To Be More Approachable To Women

How can you be more approachable to women?

If you want to learn how to be more approachable to women, there are solutions. And I'm going to explain them to you. 

In this post, you'll learn: 

  • How to improve your presentation in public to be more approachable
  • Common mistakes you should fix if you want to be more approachable to women
  • Solutions to common mistakes that will make you more approachable to women

And a lot more tips that will help to succeed at being more approachable to women. Continue reading to start improving:

Common Mistakes You Should Fix To Be More Approachable To Women

For each mistake I'm going to tell you about, the cure is almost always going to be doing the opposite.

I'm going to start with a quick example. One thing I hear a lot here in Vancouver is people saying that other people are so unfriendly. This probably is common in other places, too.

Then, I see these people socializing or interacting with a cashier or whomever. They're always projecting negative body language. Also, they always have an unhappy facial expression. And that's what they get back from other people.

This shouldn't be a surprise. But, a lot of people are unaware of their body language and what it communicates to the world.

Another example is when one time I took one of my former clients to a coffee shop and I told him to go get a glass of water.

He approached the baristas, which were two cute girls, and he spoke in a very quiet voice, looking down, didn't smile, and had no enthusiasm at all in his voice.

And that's exactly what he got mirrored back to him by the two cute girls.

I went in right after him and did everything exactly the opposite. I smiled. I spoke with a strong voice, made strong eye contact, and showed enthusiasm. And the girls projected that back at me. They mirrored me. It's a natural reaction people have.

The majority of the time, whatever you're projecting at them, they're going to mirror back to you.

Here are the solutions to five big mistakes you want to fix if you want to be more approachable to women:

Be More Approachable By Showing Confidence

Don't look at the ground. It doesn't show confidence, and it's impossible to make eye contact when you're doing that. 

Plus, you're not going to be aware of the situation, and that can lead to other problems. 

Smile At People To Appear More Approachable

If you're not smiling at people, they're not going to be smiling back at you.

Remember this when you greet a cashier, or waitress, or whomever you're dealing with. Put a smile on your face, a genuine smile, and you most likely will get that back. 

Avoid Negative Body Language

These are all signs of lack of confidence: 

  • Shoulders rolled forward
  • Hands in your pockets
  • Neck craning forward
  • Looking at the ground with your head tilted down

Nobody's going to want to approach you if you have this kind of negative body language.

Be Enthusiastic

Don't speak in a quiet voice or without enthusiasm. Except if maybe you're in a library and you're speaking in a quiet manner. Still, you could be speaking with enthusiasm.

Most of the time when guys speak without enthusiasm, they also speak in a very quiet voice. And this is causing a lot of problems.

For one, when people hear them they're going to sound like they have a lack of confidence. That lack of enthusiasm acts as a repellent.

When you're enthusiastic, it acts as an attractant. People feel attracted to this because it gives the right kind of energy, the kind of energy we all want to be around.

Always Make Eye Contact

Eye contact is important and crucial. Especially when you're making connections, communicating with others, and showing confidence.

If you want to be more approachable to women when you're walking on the street, you need to make eye contact with them.

Otherwise, if you're looking away, it's not going to happen. By fixing all these bad habits, you're going to start being more approachable to women.

You'll start to get smiles back on the street, and you might even start conversations. Although, in reality, you're not going to have women approaching from left, right and center.

You are still going to have to learn how to do cold approaches. They will make it so that you can actually walk up and start conversations with the woman you want to talk to.

But if you get a smile ahead of time, it makes it that much easier. You've already made contact. She's aware of you, and she's already given you a friendly gesture.

You can even mention that when you approach. You could say "Hey, I just walked past you and I thought you have a great smile, I had to say hi."

Solutions To The Five Mistakes You Should Fix To Be More Approachable To Women

I’ve described five mistakes guys often make. Here is a summary with their “cure” or solution to help you be more approachable to women:

  • Be more approachable by showing confidence: Don't look at the ground. It doesn't show confidence. And, it's impossible to make eye contact when you're doing that. You're not going to be aware of the situation, and that can lead to other problems.
  • Smile at people to appear more approachable: Smile at people. If you don't, they're not going to be smiling back at you. Put a smile on your face, a genuine smile, and you most likely will get that back.
  • Avoid negative body language: It shows lack of confidence. Nobody's going to want to approach you if you have negative body language.
  • Be enthusiastic: Don't speak in a quiet voice or without enthusiasm. That lack of enthusiasm acts as a repellent.  When you're enthusiastic, it acts as an attractant.
  • Always make eye contact: Eye contact is important and crucial.  If you want to be more approachable to women when you're walking on the street, you need to make eye contact with them.  Otherwise, if you're looking away, it's not going to happen.

By fixing all these bad habits, you're going to start being more approachable to women.

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