How To Approach Women When Socially Anxious (the BEST method!)

Are you a socially anxious guy who wants to learn how to approach women?

I'm gonna show you the best way to overcome your social anxiety to approach women and get more dates.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • How to overcome your social anxiety and get more dates than ever before
  • How to build your confidence and get rid of your social anxiety at the same time

And a lot more recommendations. Keep reading to find out more:

How To Get Over Being Socially Anxious And Start Approaching Women

So, how do you get over your social anxiety or social awkwardness to approach women?

As a teen, I would get really anxious around people. And if there were more than two people? Forget it. I would start sweating profusely.

And when you start sweating, you go into a cycle. It just gets worse and worse, and you want to escape from that area. You want to get out of the sight of all the people that are causing you anxiety.

I wanted to meet women when this was happening to me. The same thing may be happening to you right now, and it's not exactly the best combination.

When you try to meet women and you're socially anxious, it’s likely that your anxiety will increase.

I was stuck, so I decided to take things into my own hands. I started working on myself every single day to get rid of my social anxiety and also to develop other areas of my personality and my life.

I removed negative influences from my life. Negative friends, media, and seeing bad news around the world.

I also worked on my fitness and on my health by eating better and trying to get better sleep (which is a huge key to reducing anxiety).

After some time, I decided to learn how to do a cold approach. And that was tough because it brought all my anxiety back with a vengeance.

But, I picked up some tools along the way which allowed me to start doing cold approaches. And I'll tell you about them right now.

#1. Focus On Your Breathing

Your breathing will get shallow when you start getting nervous and anxious. To combat that, focus on your breathing.

Give your head some mental space to get away from the cause of your anxiety, which is the thought of approaching.

Also, it'll calm down your nervous system and make it easier to approach.

#2. Talk To Everyone

Don't focus only on hot women, they're going to give you the most anxiety.

Even if that's the main goal, you'll do better with hot women and your social anxiety if you get more social in general. Start talking to everyone you run into.

Make simple comments and observations. Ask questions. Whether at the grocery store, on the street, or whoever you bump into, it doesn't matter.

Look for opportunities where you can say something as opposed to saying nothing. You'll get better and less anxious talking to people.

#3. Be Social First Thing In The Morning

Start saying "Good morning" and "Hello" every morning or every day when you're passing by.

This is not an approach, iIt's not meant to get you dates. But, it's a way to get you started being social first thing in the morning or even later in the day.

It will help you normalize talking or saying hi to random people. Say "Good morning" as you pass by. Don't stop. It's meant to be a simple hello, not a conversation.

You can smile, make eye contact, and figure out what works for you. Although, usually, you want to give a little bit of distance. Give some space when you say it so people actually can have a chance to acknowledge you.

Otherwise, if you're too close and you're passing by, they won't have a chance to know what happened. Others will pass by and they won't say anything.

#4. Go To Events

Go to events where you can talk to as many people as possible, both men and women.

It'll give you a chance to work on your conversation skills. And also to work on being less socially anxious around others.

#5. Ask More Women Out

Get out there and start approaching women and asking them out. Otherwise, that social anxiety will never go away.

You need to do direct approaches. That means to actually walk up to a woman and ask her out, if you want to get good at this and to calm your social anxiety down.

This is going to take time to get good at. Some guys can do it in months. They start getting proficient and then they start getting dates. For other guys, it might take a year or longer.

And hey, that might sound like a long time, but so what? That time is going to pass no matter what, and you're going to arrive one year or two years down the road.

If you did nothing, you're still going to be socially anxious, suffering from a slow burn of defeat because you didn't do anything. That, or you can bite the bullet now.

Deal with your anxiety and start getting dates now, within the next few months or whatever it takes for you. No matter what, it's about work.

You have to actually put yourself out there and start talking to people. Do the things that make you anxious so you calm that anxiety down.

Steps To Approach Women When Socially Anxious

Here is a summary of the tools that will help you get over your social anxiety and start approaching women:

  1. Focus on your breathing: It'll give your head some mental space to get away from the root of your anxiety, which in this case is the thought of approaching. It'll also calm down your nervous system and make it easier to approach.
  1. Talk to everyone: Don't focus only on hot women, they're going to give you the most anxiety. Start talking to everyone you run into by making simple comments or asking questions. You'll get better and less anxious talking to people.
  1. Be social first thing in the morning: Start saying "Good morning" and "Hello" every day when you're passing by. Even if this is not meant to get you dates, it's a way to get you started on being social. This will help you normalize talking or saying hi to random people.
  1. Go to events: And on those events, talk to as many people as possible, both men and women. It'll give you a chance to work on your conversation skills.
  1. Ask more women out: You need to get out there, do direct approaches and ask women out. Otherwise, that social anxiety will never go away. This is going to take time to get good at, but that time is going to pass no matter what, and you're going to arrive one year or two years down the road.

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