How To Approach Women in the Gym

So, you're working out and you spot the stunner in the corner of your eye who's on the treadmill.

She's really fit, and really attractive. Just your type. But how do you approach women in the gym?

If you ask yourself this question, then keep reading. In this post, I’m going to explain:

  • How to approach a fit, attractive woman in the gym
  • How to ask out a cute gym staff member
  • The answer to the question of whether you should even try approaching in your personal gym at all

And a lot more. Let's jump into it.

Should You Approach Women In Your Gym?

We'll start with the question of whether or not you should even try approaching women in your gym, because there are some factors here which may affect your decision.

There are pitfalls to asking out a woman in your gym, such as:

#1. The Gym Is Sacred Ground

Let's be real. You're there to train, you want to get jacked, or just fit and strong.

If you're thinking about women in the gym and you're wanting to ask them out, it's going to be distracting.

You're probably not going to get as good of a workout in or you're going to be there for a lot longer than you have to be.

#2. It Can Get Awkward

If it doesn't work out, you may be feeling awkward, and you may be hesitant to go back to your gym.

Or you could have an awkward feeling when you see her, which will also affect your workout quality.

#3. It Affects Your Reputation

You could develop a reputation at your gym.

It could be positive, you could be the ladies man. Or it could be a negative reputation, something like: "that's the guy who asks out every single girl".

How To Negotiate The Pitfalls Of Approaching Women In Your Gym

So those are some of the potential pitfalls, but they can be negotiated. Here's how:

#1. Don't Show Awkwardness

Awkwardness is very often just a feeling that you have and if you project that at somebody else, then everything becomes awkward.

If you don't feel awkward, if you go in there and act normal, you say hi to the same girl you asked out, and you do your normal routine, it's really not going to be awkward.

You're going to project awkwardness if that's what you feel.

#2. Develop A Positive Reputation

You could develop a reputation as a ladies man. Just be careful. Don't ask everyone out, and have some tact when you do it.

There's different ways to do it, and there's different ways to start conversations.

If you're a social guy and you chat with everyone, it's not

going to be weird when you're talking to an attractive woman. So that's one way you can negotiate that issue.

#3. Switch Gyms

Worst case scenario, you end up dating and it doesn't go well.

Or you just ask everyone out and develop a reputation you don't like, and it's distracting you.

You could always go to another gym, but that really should be a last resort. It's not really something you want to do when you're going to your sacred ground.

The Best Way To Approach A Woman At The Gym

Now, what's the best way to approach a woman at the gym?

You could try one of these methods, and here's the quick list.

  1. Ask a relevant question
  2. Make an observation
  3. Do a cold approach and be direct

Cold approaching is probably the least desirable one of the options here.

Asking questions, making observations or making a comment is usually the best way to go because it's more low key in this gym environment.

Let's get into the specifics.

Low-Key Conversation Openers To Use At Your Gym

Here are some easy, low-key conversation openers that you can use at your gym:

#1. Ask Her What She's Training For

I actually got a date with a very attractive woman at the gym I used to go to.

She was doing all these poses, so she was actually getting ready for a

fitness competition and she looked really great, and I asked her what she was training for.

#2. Make An Observation

Make a relevant observation about something you see. That can be something really simple, like the fact that it gets so busy at that time or that it's so quiet at that time, or anything else.

No matter who you’re approaching at the gym, whether it’s a staff employee or a cute member, getting to know them with tiny steps and questions is key. 

And hey, you don't have to have something creative. Just make an observation about something you see that's right there that can get the conversation started.

Don't worry about making a comment that's super interesting or funny or any of that stuff.

Just say something so you can possibly get the ball rolling. 

You can even ask her what her routine is, which is not really an observation. But it's a question opener.

How To Cold Approach In The Gym

Cold approaching is a direct method of starting a conversation.

You're basically telling her that you thought she was really cute, attractive, or really fit, which might work better in the gym.

I won't go into all the details in this post because I've actually already explained it in another post. Check it out here

How To Ask Out A Cute Gym Member Or Staff Employee

I already mentioned the fact that I asked out a cute gym staff member actually, it was just a girl at the gym who was posing and getting ready for her fitness competition.

I asked her what she was training for, but she was also a staff member working there.

Actually, I also waited until I found out she was leaving. She wasn't going to be working anymore and that's when I asked her out.

Because generally, for me, the gym was sacred ground and I didn't go to approach women there.

I also asked out a front desk girl who I also found out was leaving,  and in both cases I got to know the staff a little bit first.

In fact, I got to know everyone there. Every time I walked in, I always had enthusiasm, I greeted everyone, female or male, it didn't matter.

So, use the following steps if you want to ask out an attractive female staff member:

#1. Make Conversation

Make conversation every time you see her.

Every time you go to the gym, chat a little bit.

It doesn't have to be a long time, but chat a little bit. Ask her about her day. Basic kind of stuff like that.

#2. Be Enthusiastic

Don't go in there and act depressed or look at the ground.

You actually want to have some energy and make strong eye contact when you go when you see her.

#3. Learn About Her

Learn about what she does outside of the gym.

She's working at a gym so she may be a student, or maybe she's a

personal trainer. There could be a lot of different options.

Learn what makes her tick, learn about her background and what got her into the gym work in the first place.

#4. Ask Her Out

At some point you're going to want to ask her out. You don't have to wait forever to get to know her well at the gym.

But, it'd be good if you have a bit of rapport before, so when you ask her out, it probably won't be that much of a surprise.

Summary

Here’s all you need to know about approaching women at your gym:

Why you probably shouldn’t approach women at your gym:

  1. The gym is sacred ground: distractions will affect your workout quality
  2. It can get awkward: you may be hesitant to go back to the gym if it doesn’t work out
  3. It affects your reputation: it could potentially be something negative like  "that's the guy who asks out every single girl"

The best way to approach women at the gym is:

  1. Ask a relevant question
  2. Make an observation
  3. Do a cold approach and be direct

How to ask out a cute gym member or staff employee:

  1. Make conversation: chat with her a bit every time you go in
  2. Be enthusiastic: be energetic and make strong eye contact when you see her
  3. Learn about her: learn about her background and what her interests are 
  4. Ask her out: try to have a rapport before so it’s not a big shock to her when you ask her

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