How To Approach A Woman Without Being Creepy

How do you approach a woman without being creepy?

In this post, I'm going to explain:

  • What to do when approaching a woman
  • How to start a conversation without projecting the wrong messages 
  • The biggest mindset mistake that guys always make

And so much more. Let's get into it:

The Biggest Mindset Mistake Guys Make

Let's start with the biggest mindset mistake that guys make because this kind directs the whole show on being creepy or not.

Focusing all of your attention here will almost always result in creepy behavior.

So, what is it? It's the focus on not being creepy which is the problem.

Of course none of us want to be creepy.

But if your mind is focused on being creepy, you're going to be altering your behavior in weird ways which can come across as creepy.

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You'll either not approach at all or you'll approach and you'll end up being creepy.

This is because you're going to be so self-conscious that you're trying to micromanage all of your movements and your eye contact and everything else and basically acting weird.

That's going to come across as creepy.

It's going to make her feel uncomfortable because it's going to seem like you have an ulterior motive when you're really just trying to micromanage yourself.

That's the essence of it. By focusing on the wrong things, you're not going to be focusing on the right things that make an approach go well.

Guys who are overly self-conscious often end up acting weird. That's going to set off red flags for whomever you're talking to.

It's just like target fixation when you're riding a motorcycle.

Target fixation is basically, let's say if you're going left on a curve and you're focusing to the right, you're focusing where you shouldn't be focusing on.

When you're riding a motorcycle, you have to be looking in the direction you're going and that's the direction you'll end up moving naturally.

But if your head is turned to the right while you're going left, you will actually start veering off to the right. A lot of motorcycles get killed doing this.

Focusing on being creepy is kind of the same thing, although it works in a little bit of a different way.

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How To Avoid Being Creepy When Approaching A Woman

#1. Focus On Her

Focus on what you want, which is the girl. Focus on her, learn about her and be curious.

Stop focusing on yourself and being self-conscious. If you're relaxed, you're much more likely to make her feel relaxed too.

Nobody's going to come across creepy when everyone's relaxed.

There are some exceptions here as well and there's other ways that guys can come across creepy.

If someone is very socially unaware and can't read the cues, that can come across as creepy or pushy as well.

#2. Give Her Space

Guys who get too aggressive, or move too fast into her personal space, or even get right up in her face can be very creepy.

When you start a conversation, give some space and pay attention to her body language. If she's turned away and she wants to leave, let her leave and wish her a good day.

For full details on how to do an approach properly, check out this post

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Summary

Avoid focusing on not being creepy when approaching women. Instead, do this:

  1. Focus on her: learn about her and be curious
  2. Give her space: give some space and pay attention to her body language. If she's turned away and she wants to leave, let her leave and wish her a good day

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