How To Approach A Woman Through Facebook

How do you approach a woman through Facebook?

Firstly, it's not the greatest idea, but it can work sometimes. I've made it work in the past, but that was before I discovered how to approach women in the street or even online dating.

The majority of the time women hate it. They get messages all the time from guys saying "Hey", or "What's up?" Or "What are you doing?" Things like that really turn them off.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • What you can do to increase your odds,
  • How to avoid looking creepy
  • What alternative you can use to get more dates naturally

And so much more. Keep reading to find out:

The Biggest Mistakes When Approaching Women Through Facebook

Here are some of the biggest mistakes I see guys make:

#1. Liking And Commenting

If you're liking and commenting on a girl's pictures, she gets validation, but you get nothing.

Especially if there's 20 other guys commenting, how likely do you think it's going to be that you're going to stand out to her?

How likely is it that she's going to notice you amongst that wall of comments from other guys who are saying pretty much exactly the same thing about how attractive she is?

#2. Sending Simple Messages

The second thing you don't want to do is send messages that say "Hey" or other simple messages like that, because the majority of the time they're just going to ignore it.

They're also getting lots of messages from other guys, who are liking their pictures saying "Hey", and other simple messages.

If you're going to message her and try to get her come out on a date, you need to stand out from the rest of the guys who are messaging her. Those are really the biggest mistakes to avoid.

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How To Approach A Woman Through Facebook

Keep in mind this is going to be a low percentage move.

Basically, chances are very low that she's actually responding or wants to go out with you, but you can make it work.

The best way to connect with somebody on Facebook is to mention something you have in common, maybe common or mutual friends, and ask her out.

Usually the best way to approach a woman on Facebook is to mention something you have in common.

Obviously you can see all the information or photos or trips, all those other things she's posting.

You're going to want to mention something you have in common that you probably share, especially if it's similar ideas.

If you both went to Hawaii, maybe that's not the best way to connect.

But if you both have a similar perspective on life, that would be a much better way to connect.

One of the times I had success when I invited somebody out through Facebook was because we had a mutual friend.

I mentioned the fact that we have this mutual friend and I also commented on a few things.

She had her profile pic that I liked and we got into a very

short conversation and I got to the point pretty quickly and just asked her out.

I said, "Hey, we should have a coffee sometime". She said yes. So I set the date and the place and the rest is history.

If she's responded to you, at this point she's already checking out your profile because she wants to learn a little bit about you.

So, you're going to want to make sure you set up your profile properly. Let's get into that:

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How To Set Up Your Facebook Profile For Dating

At this stage you're setting up your Facebook profile for dating.

That's another reason why I don't like messaging girls on Facebook, because you could go on to an online dating site which would be much more effective and just set that up for dating.

But since you made it all the way to this part, let's go into it a little bit.

Basically, this just comes down to clean up your profile.

#1. Clean Up Your Profile

Clean up any politics or any heavy politics. In some cases it might actually work to your advantage if you have some hint of politics on there, but you don't want to have full-blown arguments or anything like that.

Clean up any arguments, get rid of that kind of stuff. If she happens to have the same point of view that you do, then that's great.

You might be able to connect on that, but keep in mind that there's a good chance she doesn't and that could scare her away.

#2. Use Your Best Pictures

Also, make sure you have your best pics on there.

Don't show shitty photos of you resting a can of beer on your gut or something like that.

And hopefully you don't have a gut and if you do, maybe you should work on that. But of course that's a personal choice.

It's not necessarily going to stop you from getting a date either. But hey, it's not going to help.

Other things that can help is showing your interest, because that's going to be a much easier way to connect.

As I've mentioned, avoid having politics or anything serious like that. Have some lighthearted interests and show your hobbies and what you like.

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Alternatives To Approaching Women On Facebook

If you're going to do all this work to attract a woman on Facebook, why not try online dating instead?

Of course, you might have a crush, and that's why you're watching this video in the first place. You want to reach out to her.

In that case, just get out, reach out to her. Don't think about it too much.

But an even better alternative to online dating or approaching women on Facebook is to learn how to approach women in real life.

You can start conversations naturally with women you run into on a daily basis.

It could be while doing errands, while you're getting a coffee, while you're at a restaurant. Or it could be the waitress or barista that's serving you, or somebody else who's in line at the grocery store.

It could be anyone that you run into. This kind of approach takes some balls and it can be really scary. It's the unknown, and we're all naturally scared of the unknown, typically.

But if you want to learn how this is done, check out this post, which explains exactly how to approach women.


Here are the mistakes you should avoid making when approaching women on Facebook:

  1. Liking and commenting: she gets validation, but you get nothing
  2. Sending simple messages: in order to get a date, you need to stand out from the rest of the guys who are messaging her

And two ways to set up your Facebook profile for dating:

  1. Clean up your profile from any kind of arguments
  2. Use your best pictures

Nonetheless, you should always remember that an even better alternative to this is to learn how to approach women in real life.

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