If you've ever been to a food court, restaurant or cafe, you've probably seen groups of attractive women eating together.
If you want to meet them, you're going to have to learn how to approach a woman eating with her friends.
In this post, you'll learn:
And so much more. Let's jump into it.
Your approach is going to vary depending on the scenario and how many women there are. Obviously it's going to be a lot easier to approach a small group instead of a large group.
Two or three women I would say is fairly small. If you start getting to four or five, it starts to get bigger and harder to handle, but it's still doable.
If you have one woman in mind, you need to engage her friends as well. If you don't, there's a good chance they're going to take her away from you.
If they don't like you or approve of you, they're not going to want their friend with you.
Also, she's probably not going to like you either if you don't engage with friends.
If you want to do this properly, you need to look confident and bring some energy. Don't go in there and sound like a historian talking about some boring thing in history.
Not that history is boring, but there are some aspects that are not that great. Basically, don't be monotone.
Let's cover a couple of different scenarios here and you're going to have to adapt your approach:
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I prefer this approach in most cases.
You get to see some results instantly, see whether they're interested or not, as well as having some influence there because it shows a lot of balls and courage to go direct.
One of my favorite approaches from past times was to two really hot Brazilian women who were eating on a restaurant patio.
I was walking down the street with a buddy, but I went and approached them myself at first.
I approached them both and I was direct about it. I told them that they looked really nice.
I was just hanging outside of the railing and I was leaning on it and chatting with both of them. Afterwards my friend came over and he started chatting with the other girl who I was less interested in.
That resulted in a date and that resulted in her staying over for most of the night. So, anything can happen if you go and approach groups at a restaurant.
Now, here are the steps:
Walk over and explain the situation.
You happened to be walking past her, or you were across the street when you noticed her, or you were in the restaurant too, and you were eating at the table across the room and you noticed her.
Whatever it is, lay it out and explain exactly what you were doing before you went and talked to them.
This will attract their attention. I call it a mini story.
It will make them interested and curious to see what's happening, like what exactly are you getting at?
This is where you reveal the reason for going to talk to them.
Because they're really cute, or have a great sense of style, or whatever compliment you want to use, but you want to get to the point. Be direct.
If you started by approaching the individual you were interested in, now you have to address the group.
Make sure you get them involved. It works even better if the whole group is attractive.
You walk over and you compliment the whole group. Like the story of the two Brazilians, I actually complimented both because they were really attractive, and that's the best case scenario.
But, if you approach just one of the girls in the group, make sure you address the rest of the group afterwards to say, "Hey everyone, sorry. I had to go out to meet your friend".
If the group is having their own conversations, if they're not really paying attention to you, then don't worry about it. Keep talking to the girl you approached.
Get to know the girl you're interested in, get to know the group, talk to them, learn what they do, what they're about, and maybe even what the event is about, if it is an event.
To make a connection, you need to get the girls to open up.
If you're talking to a whole group that's attractive, then you're going to take your pick based on the reactions you see and see who's the most attentive to you and most interested.
That can come in different ways too. It's going to depend on their personalities.
Some girls can be more shy, but they can be really interested, but they're going to talk less.
Other girls are more extroverted and they're happy to talk, but they may not be necessarily interested in dating you.
You're going to have to assess the situation. This comes from experience.
Whoever you choose, just say, "Hey, we should get a coffee sometime". If she says yes, grab her number.
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This will be more of a casual approach, as opposed to a direct one.
If you don't want to go direct or you don't feel the courage at that time, or you don't have the confidence to go direct yet, or the situation isn't appropriate, you want to go with a casual opener.
Usually a question opener is one of the best ways to start a conversation and see if there's any kind of interest there.
You can ask a super simple, mundane question like, "What are you guys up to?" Or "What's the event?" Or "What brings you here?"
Usually this is best if they're seated nearby, if you could turn your head over and they're right there. It makes it very casual and easy.
If you have to walk across the room to do it, then it'll probably be better to go direct.
Remember, you don't really need something good to say. You don't need something special or unique. It's more about how you say it.
If you're confident and you have a smile on your face, you're making strong eye contact. That's the best way to engage with them.
It's not really about the opener. If you have a good one, that's great, but it's just icing on the cake. It's all about how you say it. It's the confidence that you're projecting at them.
Don't expect every opener to work. Experiment and see what works for you.
If they don't really react very chatty, then that's okay. Just continue on with your business. Continue eating or doing whatever you were doing.
Don't worry if you get some rejections. They're not really rejections, they're a reaction to your approach.
If you want to learn other kinds of approaches, you want to learn more details about how to do direct approaches, and that includes for groups, check out this post.
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Here is a summary of all the scenarios you could have when approaching a woman eating with her friends.
➡️ How to Do a Direct Approach to a Group of Women Eating in a Restaurant
➡️ How to Indirectly Approach a Group of Women at a Restaurant
Casually, not directly. If you don't want to go direct, usually a question opener is one of the best ways to start a conversation and see if there's any kind of interest there.
You can ask super simple questions like: "What are you guys up to?" ”What's the event?" "What brings you here?"
Remember, you don't need something special or unique. It's more about how you say it.
Don't expect every opener to work. Experiment and see what works for you.
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