Have you ever wondered how to approach a woman as a married man? If you have, you should know that it's very doable, although you're walking into unpredictable territory.
Being a married man and trying to approach a woman can be tricky, especially if you don't know how. We prepared this article to help you navigate the do's, don'ts, and how-tos.
If you're married and looking to talk to a woman, here are some tips on how to do it correctly. You're about to learn:
Let's get started with some top-level rules.
So, you have your eye on a woman who is not your wife; she could be a coworker, a friend of your wife's, or even a complete stranger.
You want to approach her but don't want to risk your marriage or divorce outcome. What should you do? Here are some things to remember if you find yourself in this situation.
#1: Talk to her when your wife is not around, which will help prevent awkwardness or hurt feelings.
#2: Be respectful of her personal space and boundaries. Don't force anything physical to happen.
#3: If she rejects you, accept it gracefully and move on. There's no use in pining for someone who is not interested.
#4: If she is also interested in you, despite knowing you're married, then keep everything between the two of you. Don't kiss and tell.
#5: If you do get into a relationship with her, only be friends with benefits with each other, at least until your divorce is final. If she can't agree with that, then it'll be more trouble than worth.
#1: Don't talk about your marriage or your spouse in a negative light. This will make you seem unhappy and unappreciative, giving her the wrong idea about what you are looking for.
#2: Don't be overly forward or aggressive with her, as this will scare her off and make her uncomfortable. Just take things slow and see how she responds before making any moves.
#3: Unless you're in the middle of a divorce, don't start a long-winded secret affair with the new woman. You can do this; we just don't recommend it just yet.
You'll be in a much better position by keeping things a friends-with-benefits setup between two consenting adults. You'll want to keep things under wraps until your divorce is final.
#4: If she's a coworker, you're better off not trying at all. As the saying goes: "Don't shit where you eat."
These are the most important do's and don'ts to remember. Keep them in mind, and you'll prevent most potential problems.
Now that you know the do's and don'ts, let's talk about how to make your move on her:
It'll help break the ice and make her more comfortable talking to you. Girls like it when you're friends with their friends, as it shows that you have things in common and that you're a likable guy.
You want to make a good impression, so keep the conversation focused on her. You can mention your wife later down the road, but don't lead with it.
People love talking about themselves, so ask her questions about her hobbies, work, family, etc. Show genuine interest in getting to know her, and she'll be more likely to want to get to know you better too.
Confidence is critical for approaching any woman. Just act like you would if you were talking to any other person, and she'll respond in kind.
Confidence also means you'll be okay even if she declines your advances. There are many other women out there, and some of them will be more than happy to give you what you want.
Now, let's answer a couple of testy questions that are often asked about our topic today:
Women have been found to actually be more attracted to married men than to single men. This is likely because married men are seen as more stable and reliable, tend to be better at committing, and are not as likely to play games.
When you're married, it's important to be respectful of the woman you're interested in. If she's interested, keep things at friends-with-benefits; if she's not, don't push the issue.
If you find yourself attracted to a woman who is not your wife, there are some things you should do and some things you should avoid doing if you want to approach her without ruining your marriage.
➡️ Remember the Do's:
➡️ And the Don'ts:
➡️ Likewise, remember these tips the next time you're feeling nervous about approaching a woman as a married man:
Do these things, and you'll guarantee the best outcomes for your relationship with your new girl.
If you want to become a master at approaching women, regardless of your status or hers, read my ultimate guide on How to Approach Women here.
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