How often should you text after the first date?
Well, if you haven't had a date in five years, you might feel compelled to text her every single day and send her your entire life story. But don't do that.
Whether you're a needy guy or you're a guy who actually has something going on, the best thing they do after a first date is not to bother texting at all. Except for setting up the second date.
Girls don't need some sort of maintenance text after the first date in order to keep interest in you.
If you're interesting, you have a good personality and you did a good job on the first date, then they're interested.
However, that doesn't mean you should wait a really long time before you invite them out for the second date.
You should do it within the first one to three days afterwards. After the first date, that is.
You don't need to have a text conversation after the first date in order to keep that interest going.
If she texts you and she feels chatty and she's asking you questions and that kind of thing, then yeah. Go for it. Have a conversation with her.
But remember, as a man, you don't need to engage her again and constantly text her.
More often than not, it's just going to show neediness and probably push her away.
A needy guy will text you every day if he's interested. And that’s a red flag.
Unless it's mutual and you're both texting back and forth because you're so excited to talk to each other. That's a different story.
But...if somebody starts texting you every single day, starting with "good morning" and then "how's your day?" And all these kinds of useless texts, it's probably best to start running.
You should wait anywhere between one and three days to text a girl after the first date to set up the second date.
That way when you text her, you're still fresh on her mind and it's not so long that she starts forgetting about you.
That's it for today. If you have any comments or questions, leave them below.
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