How Often Should You Text a Girl You Just Met (2 Secrets To Stop Being Needy)

You just got a new date and you're wondering: how often should you text a girl that you just met?

This is a pretty simple question to answer, but a lot of guys get it wrong and it's usually because of neediness or the desire to not look needy.

In this post, I'm going to explain:

  • How often you should text a girl you just met
  • How to avoid scaring her away and keep her interested at the same time

And a lot more. Let's jump into it:

How Often Should You Text A Girl You Just Met

Guys often screw this up, even though texting should really be one of the simplest parts of dating.

It's all about setting up the date. It's not about creating a relationship with her. You do that in person.

A lot of guys will end up texting their life story and they end up texting too much and that will push a lot of girls away.

The reason being because it looks needy, like the guy doesn't have anything else going on and he's too interested in the girl.

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Use Text Messaging To Set Up A Date

If you follow this one simple rule and you use text messaging to set up a date, then you'll be fine.

You won't have to worry about looking needy and you won't have to worry about over texting.

You don't have to worry about under texting either. Again, it's not about creating a relationship. Texting is just for setting up your date.

Of course you can have some conversation by text. If she starts texting you or she wants to have a conversation, don't go cold or play some kind of game, text her three days later or something.

That's fine, you can engage with her, as long as she's the one who's initiating.

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Save The Details For Your Actual Date

Save them for when you're in person where you can actually use your eye contact, your voice, your body language and touch as well.

It's going to be a much more powerful communication in person than by text where it's very easy to misinterpret things.

What if she flakes on you and you think you maybe you should've texted her more?

Well, it's really not about texting her more. If she flakes on you, it's because you didn't actually have enough of a connection to begin with.

There's lots of different reasons a girl will flake, even if they like you. You're never going to know why for sure, so there's not really any point in racking your brain about it.

You're going to end up texting more often as your relationship develops. And that's fine, that's how relationships progress.

It's going to be fine because you'll have a better connection already, which you established in person.

But for that girl you just met, keep it on a minimum (except for when she's messaging).

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Here's what you need to remember:

  1. Keep your messages all about setting up a date
  2. Meet her in person
  3. As your relationship develops, you're going to end up texting more often

Do you want to learn more about texting girls? Check out this post.

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