How Long Should A Guy Wait To Ask For A Second Date?

Some of you guys might be asking the question of how long should a guy wait to ask for a second date because you're worried about looking needy if you text her too soon and go for the second date.

But the real question is, are you actually needy?

If that's the case, then you're trying to play a strategic game to get your best chances of a second date without looking needy, which you are.

There's also a chance you might not be needy and you just don't want to look like you are.

However, the reality here is if the girl actually likes you, there's no such thing as asking too soon for the second date.

You can definitely ask too late, though. And I'm going to explain why. Let's get into it.

How Long Should A Guy Wait To Ask For The Second Date?

I'm going to give you a few guidelines so you have a rule of thumb to guide you every time you're going to ask for a second date so you never have to ask this question again.

Here they are:

Rule #1: do you like her?

If you like her, then ask her out for the second date.

Rule #2: refer to rule #1.

Worrying too much about this question is not something that's going to give you big returns on your dating life.

If you're needy, then that's definitely something you want to fix. One way to fix that is to get more abundance in your dating life.

You're going to want to get more dates, because it makes you value each date less. This is actually a good thing because now you're going to make better decisions, typically.

Hell, you can even ask your date for the second date while you're on the first date, while you're finishing up.

If it went well, things seem peachy, then ask her. Why not?

Personally, I'll ask anytime within one to three days. It doesn't really matter. I'm not being really strategic, but I do avoid waiting too long.

Why You Shouldn't Wait Too Long To Ask For A Second Date?

Here's why waiting too long will sabotage your chances at a second date:

If you wait a week or longer, chances are that any positive feelings she had from having the date with you are going to start to fade and she's not going to be connected to that as strongly.

You basically want to strike while the iron is hot, meaning while she's still having stronger feelings towards you.

You want to ask her out while she's still feeling she had a great date with you.

If you wait too long, she could cool off, another guy comes into the picture, and so on. Why wait anyways?

If you like her, just jump back on that gravy train and make something happen.

Now, obviously for logistic reasons, if you're actually really busy, that's a different story.

If you're busy, I'd still suggest texting her within one to three days to set something up, even if it's for later on.


Here’s what you need to remember about asking a girl on a second date:

  • If the girl actually likes you, there's no such thing as asking too soon for the second date
  • It’s best to ask her between one to three days after your first date. That way, she still has you fresh on her mind
  • There are only two rules: first, if you like her, ask her out on the second date. And second, follow the first rule

That's all for today.  If you have any comments or questions, leave them below.

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