When wondering how to get in her pants on the first date, generally speaking, you're going to have to date a much larger woman in order to be able to do that.
Otherwise, you can expect some chafing and it's going to be really uncomfortable, weird and awkward.
But wait, that's not what you meant by that question, is it? You want sex?
Well, if that's the case, let me guide you through this process in the simplest way possible. It's really not a complicated matter.
A lot of times what it comes down to is actually being honest. That doesn't mean explicit talk, but you're going to have to be more direct, more forward, and not be worried if she says no.
It's not a big deal if she says no, it might just mean she's not ready at that moment, but she might be ready on another date.
At the very least, if you express your intentions, you're going to set a frame for the date and be like, "hey, this is not a friendship" by taking that action, not actually saying that.
Before you can get to sex, it's all about connection. This is the same for any date.
It doesn't matter if you want a relationship or you're looking for a one night stand or some kind of fling. If she doesn't feel something for you, nothing's going to happen.
You shouldn't be rushing to get into her pants because you should be focusing on building a connection first. Part of building a connection, obviously, is expressing some sort of intent.
Expressing that intent is all about having that emotion, that feeling and that desire when you're looking at her.
That's going to be expressed subtly through the way you feel.
This is something you're going to need practice to do to make it work, because typically what guys do is they suppress their sexual feelings and act like a friend with every girl they meet. That's all they end up getting.
Allow yourself to feel your sexual feelings. That will come out subtly through your other actions, your behaviors, your facial expressions, the way you use your voice.
Remember, it's not an overt thing, you're not winking at her or you're not scratching your lip or doing something weird. It's nothing like that. It's very very subtle.
You just have to have that emotion present and not suppress it.
Then, of course, to make a connection, focus on her, have a conversation, get her to express herself and open up.
As long as everything goes well, the last thing to do is to invite her home. Be direct about it. You don't have to be explicit at all.
In fact, you shouldn't be, because that's not going to work. You could say, "hey, let's go back to my place". It's as simple as that.
If she says yes, then great. You go to the next step and see if anything happens. It's not a guarantee.
However, at least now you'll be in a better environment where you can make something happen.
That's all for this one. If you’ve got any comments or questions, leave them below.
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