Do your friends often come to you with their problems in love and dating? Do they say you have a knack for understanding their problems and giving expert advice?
If so, then you might have considered becoming a dating coach. If you're passionate about helping people find love and want to have a hand in helping others navigate the sometimes-treacherous world of dating, then that might be the right career path for you.
But how exactly do you become one officially? This blog post will walk you through all you need to know to become a good dating coach. You're about to learn:
Let's start the journey now.
The first and most important step in becoming a dating coach is to get real-world experience. You yourself must represent the “final product” your clients want to achieve.
After all, your clients will want to get advice from someone who has walked the path they’re currently on. They want someone who’s “been there and done that.” And if you don’t have that kind of track record, they won’t trust you.
For example, let’s say you’re a man who wants to become a dating coach for men. You want to coach other men into becoming supremely confident, good with the ladies, and capable of leading successful relationships. What should you do?
You should be supremely confident, good with the ladies, and capable of leading successful relationships, that’s what.
And that means you should approach thousands of women. Go out there, approach women, and talk to them. Get with them or get rejected. Learn what works and what doesn’t.
You do this over and over, for several years, until you become the man you want to coach your clients to become. That’s the deal—after all, if you can’t practice what you preach, everyone will think you’re a fake, and your business won’t take off.
You must feel the hurt your target clients are feeling and embrace the struggles they’re going through. Not only will this help you find the tools and strategies to solve their problems, but it will also let you relate to them as no one else can.
The second step is to do your research. As you’re racking up the real-world experience in your chosen field of coaching, you’ll also want to augment your experience with that of other experts who walked the road before you.
Look for books, ebooks, blogs, podcasts, and other reliable sources of information about human psychology and relationships. Look for dating coaches who serve a similar audience as yours – they’ll have years or decades of experience that you can absorb in a few hours.
Besides reading relationship books, we recommend signing up for online newsletters, following influential relationship researchers on social media, and checking out helpful websites like Conquer & Win.
Once you have some experience, it's time to start building up your business! This means creating a website, reaching out to friends/family/acquaintances who might be interested in your services, creating social media accounts, and considering advertising in local newspapers or online classified ads.
You'll also want to consider getting dating coach accreditation and credentials. The most well-known organization to offer such is the Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI), which provides a Certified Relationship Coach (CRC) designation. Other organizations that offer similar credentials include the International Coach Federation (ICF), the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), and the Gottman Institute.
While accreditation and credentials from these organizations are not required to become a dating coach, they can help establish your credibility and show potential clients that you are serious about your work.
Speaking of credibility, you’ll want to build a website that builds it consistently. That means it should:
The more robust and professional your website is, the more credible you’ll appear to your clients and partners. Consider building a team to build and manage your website over the long haul.
To wrap up, let's answer a few miscellaneous questions about becoming a dating coach:
No specific qualifications are required to become a relationship consultant, but it is helpful to have some experience working with couples or individuals seeking relationship help. You can gain this experience by volunteering with organizations that provide relationship counseling services or by offering your services pro bono (for free) at first.
Luckily, you don't need certification to be a dating coach. While some people may feel that certification lends more credibility to their work, others may not feel the need for it. What's most important is to have the necessary skills and experience to help your clients in their relationships.
Becoming a dating coach requires an understanding of relationships, communication skills, and the ability to listen to help your clients. Additionally, you'll need experience working with couples or individuals seeking relationship help.
Becoming a dating coach can be immensely rewarding if you're passionate about it. To be successful in this field, we recommend doing the following:
You can be successful as a dating coach with hard work and dedication. You'll be saving relationships—and lives—with your work.