Are you asking yourself the question: how do I get confidence for a first date?
First dates can be nerve-wracking experiences, but with a little bit of preparation you can go feeling ready and a lot more confident.
In this post, you'll learn:
And a lot more so that you can be the best version of yourself and conquer the dating scene. Let 's get into it.
Confidence on a first date is really a matter of experience. Feeling nervous is normal at first but overthinking can you hold back and as you gain more experience, first dates will come more naturally.
Just like with anything else, the more experience you have, the more you'll feel comfortable and the better you'll be able to make a good first impression.
Hence why to fix this problem, you're going to want to go on a lot of dates.
The problem is too many guys play small in their love lives. They'llget one or two dates in a year and then they wonder why they're not doing well in dating. It's easy to fall back into a comfort trap but in order to meet that special someone, you've got to break that insecurity and put yourself out there.
Obviously with one or two dates a year, you're not going to be able to boost your confidence and make a difference in your love life. That's one problem.
Learning how to get dates is another problem, but I won't get into that. We'll just stick to first date confidence.
You probably have a date that you're nervous about and that's why you're reading this post. Let's jump into some steps you can take so you can go into the date feeling more confident:
Try the following:
Breathing will calm down your nervous system.
This is the kind of advice that's out there, but not everybody takes it. Not everybody remembers to do this when they're actually nervous.
But, if you stop and take some deep breaths and exhale slowly, it'll calm your nerves a lot. This will also help you loosen up and makes you look much calmer.
What do you actually want out of that date?
Instead of worrying about all the things that could possibly go wrong, focus on all the things that could possibly go right and the direction you want to take it. Keeping a positive outlook will boost your mood and you'll feel confident going into the date.
Decide how you're going to lead this date, where you're going to take it, where you're going to start and where it's going to end off. This will increase the chances of a second date plus, taking the wheel and showing initiative will help you become more confident.
Don't be afraid to push your comfort zone. Your best self will shine through if you keep an open mind but also go in with a plan to achieve your end goal.
If she's not into you, then so what? Everything doesn't die on this date.
Obviously it may feel that way, if you haven't had a date in a long time. But don't let this affect your self-esteem. There will be more.
She's just another girl. This isn't the most important thing in the world. Ultimately you want someone you are compatible with and this usually takes some dating around, so don't stress it.
You need some good sleep to calm your nerves as well. Brain fog and bags under your eyes will make you feel less confident and it's just not a good look. When you go on a first date you want to look good and feel good.
I know from personal experience and from studies, not getting enough sleep will definitely raise anxiety. Getting a good night's sleep is one of the best ways to boost your confidence.
Visualize how you imagine the date going in the most positive direction. Maybe your goal is to go in for a kiss at the end of the night or maybe you're hoping to invite her over after dinner. It can be as simple as just getting to know her better. Whatever it is, visualizing it ahead of time will help you not second-guess yourself.
Don't leave everything to the last minute. If you have anything that you need to prepare, get your clothing together.
Whatever it is, have everything laid out so it's ready to go and when it's time to go, you can leave and not worry about being late. This is often an overlooked piece of dating advice but nonetheless very helpful. Which brings us to:
This is so that you're not in a rush or get caught in traffic or any kind of bullshit like that.
Go a little bit earlier so you show up on time or show up slightly early. It's ok if you have to wait for her for a little while but don't show up too early. After all, she could end up being late and wasting your time, so you don't want to be waiting around too long.
To burn off some of the excess energy, go have a good workout.
Having a good workout, whether it's a run or lifting some weights, is a good way to reduce anxiety.
It will help you feel a lot more energized and better for your date, depending on how intense that workout is, of course.
Now, here are a few things you can do during your dates to get confident:
While you're on your date, make sure you don't go into shallow breathing, which is nervous breathing. Take a deep breath. Exhale slowly. This will help with self-assurance.
You're not going to make a show out of it because she's right there, but make sure you're breathing deeply. That’ll help you stay calm.
Instead of thinking about yourself and getting all self-conscious about how you're dressing or how she's looking at you or how the date is going, just focus on her and try to learn something about her. Light-hearted banter can be a good way to break the ice and to get to know her better.
And not only that, you should be also focusing on where you want to take the date. Do you want to go for a kiss at some point? Do you want to take her home?
That's much better to think about than thinking about "do I have spinach in my teeth?"
If you have your hands in your pockets, shoulders rolled forward or you're looking at the ground, all these kinds of behaviors are going to make you feel more nervous, and they're also going to communicate to her that you're nervous as well.
You want to accentuate your good qualities. So keep your head held high, stay true to yourself, and following these steps will help you conquer that first date nervousness and gain the confidence you need.
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Here’s everything you need to remember about first date confidence:
❑ How to feel more confident before your first date:
❑ How to get confident during your dates:
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