How Do I Get Confidence For A First Date? (TRY THIS)

Are you asking yourself the question: how do I get confidence for a first date?

First dates can be nerve-wracking experiences, but with a little bit of preparation you can go feeling ready and a lot more confident.

In this post, you'll learn:

  • A simple trick to boost your confidence on your first date
  • The best pre-date exercise to help calm your anxiety and improve your mindset
  • The one thing that will make you feel confident and help you make a great impression

And a lot more so that you can be the best version of yourself and conquer the dating scene. Let 's get into it.

How Do I Get Confidence For A First Date?

Confidence on a first date is really a matter of experience. Feeling nervous is normal at first but overthinking can you hold back and as you gain more experience, first dates will come more naturally.

Just like with anything else, the more experience you have, the more you'll feel comfortable and the better you'll be able to make a good first impression.

Hence why to fix this problem, you're going to want to go on a lot of dates.

The problem is too many guys play small in their love lives. They'llget one or two dates in a year and then they wonder why they're not doing well in dating. It's easy to fall back into a comfort trap but in order to meet that special someone, you've got to break that insecurity and put yourself out there.

Obviously with one or two dates a year, you're not going to be able to boost your confidence and make a difference in your love life. That's one problem.

Learning how to get dates is another problem, but I won't get into that. We'll just stick to first date confidence.

You probably have a date that you're nervous about and that's why you're reading this post. Let's jump into some steps you can take so you can go into the date feeling more confident:

How To Feel More Confident Before Your First Date

Try the following:

#1. Breathe

Breathing will calm down your nervous system.

This is the kind of advice that's out there, but not everybody takes it. Not everybody remembers to do this when they're actually nervous.

But, if you stop and take some deep breaths and exhale slowly, it'll calm your nerves a lot. This will also help you loosen up and makes you look much calmer.

#2. Focus On The Prize

What do you actually want out of that date?

Instead of worrying about all the things that could possibly go wrong, focus on all the things that could possibly go right and the direction you want to take it. Keeping a positive outlook will boost your mood and you'll feel confident going into the date.

#3. Be A Man With A Plan

Decide how you're going to lead this date, where you're going to take it, where you're going to start and where it's going to end off. This will increase the chances of a second date plus, taking the wheel and showing initiative will help you become more confident.

Don't be afraid to push your comfort zone. Your best self will shine through if you keep an open mind but also go in with a plan to achieve your end goal.

#4. Minimize The Importance Of Her Opinion

If she's not into you, then so what? Everything doesn't die on this date.

Obviously it may feel that way, if you haven't had a date in a long time. But don't let this affect your self-esteem. There will be more.

She's just another girl. This isn't the most important thing in the world. Ultimately you want someone you are compatible with and this usually takes some dating around, so don't stress it.

#5. Sleep

You need some good sleep to calm your nerves as well. Brain fog and bags under your eyes will make you feel less confident and it's just not a good look. When you go on a first date you want to look good and feel good.

I know from personal experience and from studies, not getting enough sleep will definitely raise anxiety. Getting a good night's sleep is one of the best ways to boost your confidence.

#6. Visualize

Visualize how you imagine the date going in the most positive direction. Maybe your goal is to go in for a kiss at the end of the night or maybe you're hoping to invite her over after dinner. It can be as simple as just getting to know her better. Whatever it is, visualizing it ahead of time will help you not second-guess yourself.

#7. Prepare For The Date In Advance

Don't leave everything to the last minute. If you have anything that you need to prepare, get your clothing together.

Whatever it is, have everything laid out so it's ready to go and when it's time to go, you can leave and not worry about being late. This is often an overlooked piece of dating advice but nonetheless very helpful. Which brings us to:

#8. Go A Little Bit Earlier

This is so that you're not in a rush or get caught in traffic or any kind of bullshit like that.

Go a little bit earlier so you show up on time or show up slightly early. It's ok if you have to wait for her for a little while but don't show up too early. After all, she could end up being late and wasting your time, so you don't want to be waiting around too long.

#9. Have A Good Workout

To burn off some of the excess energy, go have a good workout.

Having a good workout, whether it's a run or lifting some weights, is a good way to reduce anxiety.

It will help you feel a lot more energized and better for your date, depending on how intense that workout is, of course.

How To Get Confident During Your Dates

Now, here are a few things you can do during your dates to get confident:

#1. Breathe

While you're on your date, make sure you don't go into shallow breathing, which is nervous breathing. Take a deep breath. Exhale slowly. This will help with self-assurance.

You're not going to make a show out of it because she's right there, but make sure you're breathing deeply. That’ll help you stay calm.

#2. Focus On Her

Instead of thinking about yourself and getting all self-conscious about how you're dressing or how she's looking at you or how the date is going, just focus on her and try to learn something about her. Light-hearted banter can be a good way to break the ice and to get to know her better.

And not only that, you should be also focusing on where you want to take the date. Do you want to go for a kiss at some point? Do you want to take her home?

That's much better to think about than thinking about "do I have spinach in my teeth?"

#3. Check Your Posture

If you have your hands in your pockets, shoulders rolled forward or you're looking at the ground, all these kinds of behaviors are going to make you feel more nervous, and they're also going to communicate to her that you're nervous as well.

You want to accentuate your good qualities. So keep your head held high, stay true to yourself, and following these steps will help you conquer that first date nervousness and gain the confidence you need.

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Here’s everything you need to remember about first date confidence:

How to feel more confident before your first date:

  1. Breathe: it’ll help calm down your nervous system
  2. Focus on the prize: think about all the things that could go right on that date
  3. Be a man with a plan: lead the date always, including where it’s going to end off
  4. Minimize the importance of her opinion: if she ends up not being into you, don’t worry. That date isn’t the most important thing in the world
  5. Sleep: if you don’t, it could contribute to raising your anxiety levels
  6. Visualize: imagine the date going in the most positive direction
  7. Prepare for the date in advance: lay out everything you need so you can forget about being late
  8. Go a little bit earlier: show up on time or slightly early by avoiding issues like traffic
  9. Have a good workout: you’ll feel better and more energized for your date

How to get confident during your dates:

  1. Breathe: take deep breaths and slow exhales, it’ll help you stay calm
  2. Focus on her: try to learn something about her and focus on where you want to take the date
  3. Check your posture: all behaviors related to bad posture will cause you to feel more nervous and communicate that nervousness to her

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