How Can I Overcome My Shyness To Approach Women Who Are Checking Me Out (3 Ways To Win A Date)

Do you see women checking you out, but you're asking yourself this question:

How can I overcome my shyness to approach women who are checking me out?

And a lot more. Let's jump into it.

How To Overcome Shyness To Approach Women Who Are Checking You Out

There are some simple steps to overcome your shyness when you see a woman looking at you and you want to go talk to her.

Simple, but not necessarily easy because you still have to deal with your own anxieties. You're also overcoming years of conditioning here.

Every time you've seen a woman who was looking at you and she smiled at you and you didn't go talk to her, that conditioned you to not go talk to women who were checking you out.

You have to reverse that habit by doing the opposite. Here are a couple of the easiest ways to overcome the habit of not looking at a woman when she's looking at you:

How To Overcome Your Shyness And Anxieties

#1. Breath

Take a deep breath and exhale slowly. That will calm your nervous system so you can get some more courage and go talk to her.

#2. Approach

This is going to be a little bit more difficult.

You have to overcome that hurdle, that anxiety inside, that knot that kind of stops you from going talking to her.

But if you keep focusing on that, you keep trying every time you see a woman looking at you, you will overcome it and you will go talk to her.

It just takes a leap of faith and that inertia will be broken over time. The more you do this, the easier it will get.

Your shyness will no longer be a problem in the long run, as long as you stick to this.

What To Say To A Woman Who's Checking You Out

Now, what to say to a woman who's checking you out? Let's start with some simple guidelines:

1. Keep it simple
2. Get to the point
3. Be direct

Here are the exact words you can use when you go and approach a woman who's checking you out. You don't need these exact words, just need the main point.

And following the guidelines that I just covered, it'll make it a lot easier for you and a lot more effective as well for getting dates.

As soon as you see her looking at you and she walks past or whatever the situation is, you walk back over to her.

Start with "Excuse me" first, just to get her attention. Then go right into it and be direct, simple, and right to the point:

"Hey, I just saw you walk by and you smiled at me and I had to come back and say hi because I wanted to tell you to have a great smile."

And that's it, really. You're getting to the point.

You're telling her the fact that you saw her smile, you're giving her a simple compliment, the fact that she has a nice smile.

There are no words that are super effective specifically, it's more about how you say it.

If you say it with a smile, confidence and passion like it's going to come across the right way and convey the right feeling, because it's all about feelings in this dating game.

At that point, obviously, now it's about the conversation. Get to know her.

Use your curiosity to learn some stuff about her. What is she all about? What drives her? It doesn't really matter how long it is.

It really depends how much time you have or how much time she has.

Now that you have a chance to get her to open up and talk about herself, you have a chance to make a connection. And there's a possibility for a date right there.

If you want to learn more mechanics and more details about how to approach a woman directly, check out this post.

Summary

Here are two tricks you can to try to overcome your shyness:

1. Breath: it’ll calm your nervous system so you can get some more courage
2. Approach: your shyness will no longer be a problem in the long run, as long as you stick to this

And a guideline to keep in mind when a woman is checking you out:

1. Keep it simple
2. Get to the point
3. Be direct

If you have any questions, leave a comment below.

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