How and Where To Meet Women

This is a common Google search query because guys just don't know how and where to meet women.

The "how" question is legitimate, but the "where" question assumes that there's a special place to meet women, and that's not the case.

As soon as you step out your door, unless you're living in the middle of nowhere, there's going to be women everywhere.

Sure, they're not going to be hanging from trees and they're probably not all beautiful, but they'll be anywhere you go.

Whenever you're on the street, you go shopping, you go to school, you go to work, there are women everywhere.

That's why the "where" question really isn't legitimate. You don't need to go to a special place to meet them.

But how do you meet these women who are falling from the sky?

I'm going to address this question and give you some ideas so you can start meeting women as soon as you step out of your door. Literally. Let's go.

How and Where To Meet Women

There's no problem with the where part because "where" is everywhere.

You don't need to go to bars or clubs. You don't need to go to some special event. Women are everywhere.

That brings us to the "how" part. If you don't know how to start conversations with them, then it may seem like some kind of complex puzzle.

If that's the case, that feeling probably led you to doing some Google searches, which led you to this blog post of some a***** saying that there are women everywhere. Crazy.

However, if you learn how to start conversations with them everywhere you go, you're not even going to have enough time slots in your Google calendar to fit them all in.

Let's jump into some specific scenarios.

I'm not going to go into too many details because I've covered this topic many times already.

I'm just going to outline the basic principles and then it's going to be up to you to go out there and experiment to see what works for you. There are lots of different ways to do this.

You're going to find tons of blog posts with different opinions, many of which will work and many of which are probably bullshit that the authors made up and never have actually tried themselves.

But that's going to be up to you to figure out –- what's the bullshit and what's the truth.

Some things are going to work better for certain individuals than for others. For some guys who are immensely confident, almost anything will work.

However, if you're not that confident, it helps to have some guidelines that will take you in the right direction. Think of them as training wheels.

Common Scenarios Where You Meet Women

Here are some common scenarios you're going to encounter and different ways to start conversations in those scenarios so you can get dates. Let's go, again.

#1. Shopping

This could be at any sort of retail outlet, grocery store, or basically any sort of shop.

In these situations, it typically doesn't pay to go direct because this is going to be a small environment with a lot of ears.

It's not going to be uncomfortable for you, but it may be uncomfortable for the woman you're talking to if you're too forward.

Generally speaking, it pays to be able to make indirect conversation openers in these sorts of situations.

For example, if you're in a grocery store and you're in the meat section and you see a girl checking out the sausages, you could be like, "it's hard to find a good piece of meat around here, right?"

Or something like that... Or pretty much any other comment you want to make. It doesn't really matter that much what comment you make, for the most part.

I mean, it does, to an extent. But, how you say it is even more important.

If you say it confidently, you don't whisper to her (which sounds really creepy), and plus she probably won't even hear you in the first place.

Even more importantly in this kind of situation, don't turn towards her. I understand that may seem strange.

You're trying to start a conversation with someone and you're not turning your body towards them. Keep in mind that this is a casual situation.

It doesn't matter if you're grocery shopping or shopping for clothing, you're not supposed to make it look like you're approaching her directly.

Otherwise, you may as well approach her directly and forget the whole indirect thing.

Your body is going to be squared to whatever you're shopping for and your head is going to turn towards her so you can project your voice and so she can see that you're talking to her.

There are a lot of different possible comments you can make, so I'm not going to go over everything in this post, but experiment and see what works for you.

Generally, I pick the most simple, obvious thing that's right in front of me. It usually has something to do with what she's looking at or what she's doing.

Keep in mind, as long as it's relevant to her and it's not something about you, it's going to work a lot better.

If it doesn't work, she'll probably chop your balls off and pepper spray you. Nono, she won't do that. You can trust me, I'm some guy on the internet.

#2. Anywhere You're Getting Food

This includes coffee shops, restaurants, anywhere you're getting food. It could be a cafeteria or some food court in the mall, it doesn't matter.

These situations are often going to allow you a chance to sit somewhere nearby where there's a single woman seated.

In that case, it's going to be very easy to start a conversation about the coffee she has, or the cake, or the meal.

Much like in the first scenario, what you say doesn't matter that much. It does, but it doesn't. What matters more is how you say it. Make sure you speak with a strong, clear voice.

You should be looking directly at her and avoiding whispering to her or sending psychic signals to her because you're self-conscious. Otherwise, it's not going to work.

She might think you're a crazy guy who's talking to himself and not actually know you're talking to her.

In these restaurant and café scenarios you can also chat up the waitress or the barista. I've gotten dates with waitresses, baristas, bartenders, hostesses, you name it.

All you have to do is start a basic conversation with them. You don't need something special to say, as it also happens in all these other scenarios.

You just need to start talking, but focus on them. Keep it relevant to them.

People like talking about themselves and they're not really going to care about you until they do care about you, which is after you've got them interested.

#3. The Street

This is a taboo situation for most guys because most guys will never try this in their lives. They just don't have the balls for it.

It could also be because they've been brainwashed by some weird ideology that I'm not going to mention the name of (it's the one that teaches you that talking to women is a bad thing).

That's just not true. It depends on how you're doing it. There are some definite guidelines for approaching a woman on the street:

You want to respect her space. And hey, I know you're all about respecting women. That's why you're here.

But seriously, you have to respect your space. Nobody likes it when somebody jumps up into their personal bubble.

They don't want to be touched either, so don't tap them or do anything like that. I've seen that before.

Women don't appreciate it. Actually, nobody would appreciate being touched by a stranger or somebody getting right up in their face in public.

If you do this properly, by extending your arm out and checking that you can't touch her, that's more or less a good rule of thumb.

If you're short, though, do a couple of arms length. Stay out of her personal bubble.

Approach her like you're getting directions. Just say, "excuse me", and then be direct about it.

Let her know that you saw her and that she looked absolutely fantastic, which is why you had to come talk to her.

There's more to it. Check out this link. There are more details on how to do this well.

But, those are the main guidelines:

  • Stay out of her space
  • Don't touch her
  • Be direct and honest

In terms of how and where to meet women in public, those are going to be the three most common scenarios.

You can apply these tips to any other scenario you can think of. It is now up to you to grow some balls and actually go out and talk to them.

Women are not that scary. Most of the time, even if you don't do it 100% correctly, most women will be very forgiving and very nice, in fact.

The majority of the time, if you approach somebody and they're not interested, they'll politely excuse themselves or they'll make an excuse to say they have a boyfriend or a husband.

A lot of the time they actually do have boyfriends and husbands too, so not a big deal. But if they're not interested in talking to you, just leave it be.

Let them go and you can talk to somebody else. Obviously, to make this work extremely well, there's going to be more to it.

Your body language, the way you speak, including your voice, the strength of your voice, how you use your eyes, what you say are all very important things.

You're not going to figure out all this stuff until you get out there and actually start talking to women.

So if you want to know how and where to meet women, walk out in the street, go to a store, go to a grocery store, wherever you like, and just start talking to them.

This is the way you're going to learn and this is the way you're going to start getting dates.

Otherwise, if this is too much for you, I'd suggest speed dating or online dating.

Although online dating really doesn't work that well for most guys...not average guys.

But if you do decide to take this journey and start learning how to meet women this way, it will develop your confidence in ways you've never even imagined before.


The “how” to meet women is a bit more complicated to answer. On the other hand, the “where” to meet women is easy, because it can truly be anywhere.

Here are three most common scenarios where you can meet women:

  1. Shopping: it can be at any type of shop, but you need to focus on approaching her indirectly (with something like a comment about what’s around you) so you avoid any unnecessary awkwardness
  2. Anywhere you're getting food: focus on her in your conversation and you’ll be good. Also, this is the perfect scenario to reinforce the idea that what matters most is how you say things, not what you say
  3. The street: this is a ballsy move that isn’t for everyone, but it’s extremely effective. You just have to make sure you’re always staying out of her space, avoiding touching her and being honest and direct

That's all for today. If you’ve got any comments or questions, leave them below.

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