Does A Gentleman Kiss On The First Date?

Does a gentleman kiss on the first date?

That depends. If you're obsessed with this idea about being a gentleman, then there's a good chance, not 100%, but there's a good chance that you may be what's called a "nice guy".

You're probably going to get in your own way. A lot of guys who identify with this idea of being a gentleman are very often the "nice guy" types.

They're the guys who get passed over for other guys and the kind of guys who hear that their date wants to be friends all the time.

If that's not you, then this info isn’t for you because in this post I'm going to be addressing the nice guy type of "gentleman".

Obviously, not being a gentleman doesn't mean you have to be a dick, but I'm just talking about not showing up to be a servant for all the girls you're going on dates for, or a pushover, more accurately.

Nobody respects that and it's a very hard way to go about dating and try to attract women.

Women are attracted to guys who have some balls. Basically, men that can be assertive.

Instead of worrying if a gentleman can kiss on the first date, focus on what you want, what works in dating, and your dating goals.

Do you want to kiss her? Then go for it. If she's into you, then it's going to probably work.

Even if she's not ready yet, at least you're going to be showing some assertiveness and setting a line in the sand saying, "hey, this is a romantic thing. This is not a friendship thing".

That will help you create some attraction. You can be polite, but don't fall over yourself trying to be a gentleman.

For more info on first dates, check out this post.


There are three things you need to keep in mind when answering this question:

  1. If you obsess over being a gentleman or a “nice guy” you’re not going to be assertive, and you’re probably going to get in your own way
  2. Focus on what you want so your intentions with her are clear
  3. Not being a gentleman doesn’t mean you get to be a dick, you just have to show assertiveness instead of being passive

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